</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Any ideas on how to confront or generally what to do from a legal, social, emotional and whatever else perspective. She knows nothing thus far.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If your WW truly cared about you or the OM, she would have decided for one or the other. But since she has enjoyed fooling both of you, it is obvious she is a cakewoman who enjoys having two men in her life.
I'm going to take a wild guess and assume that since you are back here asking for help, that you love your WW very much and want to save your M. BUT even so I would recommend that you abstain from having sexual relations with your WW, not just to protect your health but to protect yourself legally if she does become pregnant and there is a question whether the child she would be carrying, is yours or the OM's. And to avoid her vehemently denying that she is still having her A with the OM, I would suggest that you and the OM arrange a meeting with her where she would not know that you two know the truth. Once she arrives for the meeting, you or the OM would pop out and confront her with her deception. She will finally realized that her charade is over and that she will either have to choose between you or the OM. BUT be prepared in case she makes her choice to be with the OM, and not with you.
This board has very little traffic compared with the infidelity general questions board, and I would suggest that you post this thread over there as well to have more input from much wiser folks than me.