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well it has been 7 weeks since my h has had n/c with o/w. nothing has really changed he seems a little calmer but that is about it. we both agreed he should leave. we get along fine but it just is not the way i want it or the way he wants it. our relationship feels so strained. he doesn't know what he wants he says he is still very confused. i can't trust him i feel like he is lying to me about the o/w. he says no he is not and i can't find any evidence, but i have to trust my instincts. i want him to leave right away he wants me to give him time to find a place. i told him i didn't want to have any contact what so ever after he leaves he is not to thrilled with that but that is what i am going to do. i allso gave him my plan B letter telling him how i know i am responsible for not meeting his emotional needs, but he is responsible for the A. i don't wish to have any contact with him. he can call our oldest daughter if he needs and she can be the go between she is 23.I allso told him if he ever wants to come home and really make a go of our marriage the door is open. i love him but can't go on like this. i am so much stronger now i no i can handle this with great dignity. i am looking forward to taking care of me.don't get me wrong i would rather have my husband home and madly in love with me but that is not how he feels. so i have to move on. it has been a tough road but i can make it because of all of you on M.B. i am so thankful i found this web-site. thank you all so much. de
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If he is no longer having an affair, why are you going to Plan B?
Plan B is when the affairee cannot choose between the lover or the spouse.
I allso told him if he ever wants to come home and really make a go of our marriage the door is open.
What did you tell him about why you want no contact?
What did you tell him he has to do to resume contact and get back together?
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i don't trust him i think he may be having contact i'm not sure but he may go to her once he leaves so im protecting my self plus once he leaves i want him to see how life is totally with out me.
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even though he has had no contact he can't decide if he wants me or her. that is why i think i need plan B. he is leaving so he can figure it out i think he'll see her.
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If he leaves he will very likely again see her. He may have been seeing/talking with her the entire time.
Can you post your Plan B letter here?
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