Thanks for asking red hat I'm ok. I now realized that I have to get away from this women. She has no idear about what she has done and is doing. She is a taker. All she cares about is her self. For over a year I wanted to talk to work things out. All I got was "I don't want to talk." or "I'll talk when I'm ready" . She will talk if she needs something or wants something for herself then it"s ok to talk. But refuses to talk about our "state" I feel that this is all a game for her I told her to call a mediator to make an apointment a few weeks ago. She has still not set up the apointment. I told her she is free to go I will no longer try to hold her against her will. But no responce
When I married her she told me "no matter what it takes I will make this marriage work" She was married 2 times before me. Her brother tells me she did this same thing the last time too? Am I wrong to want to talk about our state: to get divorced or try to work things out? I feel like I'm in limdo land? I just want this to be over one way or another. She has succedded in geting what she wanted regardless of the cost? I have given up and told her to go, yet she will not start the divorce.Last night I told her we can"nt live like this anymore? It's not fair to our son to me to her and everyone around us who see what"s going on. No responce.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by MONTEHALLL:
<strong>She was married 2 times before me. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Look at the pattern ... it is definitly the same. Who file on her last 2 Dv ? and how her M was ended ?
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>Am I wrong to want to talk about our state: to get divorced or try to work things out?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"></strong>
It is not wrong just the timing is wrong.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>I feel like I'm in limdo land?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You should get profesional help, probably you would take their advice better <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> . We tried to tell you to put a bit reality on her action but you budged. You put yourself in the limbo land ... you have to be in plan A or plan B not in between. It is sound cold but I don't know how to get thru. you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> .

-rh-