<small>[ June 11, 2004, 09:48 PM: Message edited by: Rusty Nail ]</small>

You have come to the right place for support and comfort. I am no expert, but to me you should be in Plan A, at least until W's meds kick in. (I will pray that is soon, because her behavior is very dangerous). I have a grandaughter who has been diagnosed with Bipolar disease. She is now in lockup. She is 12 years old and was meeting men from the internet. Her father caught her having sex on a golf course at night with a 45 year old man. Anyway to answer your question about how to emotionally detach, you just have to start doing it. Get busy exercising, taking kids places, going out with friends, developing spiritually, working on business and finances, etc. Make changes in you, and take care of you. I'm 4 months past D-day and feel like a different person. At first I couldn't do anything, just had to make myself. Keep posting here, you will get lots of kindness and support. Also try posting on Just Found Out forum. Good luck and don't give up on your marriage.

Thanks believer. re posting on other board; I have done just that. I can't imagine that my pain is as crushing as your gran d's father. I have followed my wife around trying to interfer with the 'meetings' but that has led nowhere man. No suprise I guess. Good to hear you are moving forward. Sounds like the Nike ads are right. "just do it". I am having difficulty because I seem to get sucked in on her good days. I'm hoping that this step of moving her out of the home will give me a respite although I'm also very apprehensive because it also seems to give her open license. She probably already feels that way due to our broken relationship, hence her actions.
Replys over here now.