Dear All
I am new and wld appreciate advise before I make decision that might wreck or restore my marriage.Found out abt A in Oct '02, H so-called ended A in Jan '03 but I found out that they are maintaining contact recently. H says it is nothing and have ceased contact recently after being found out.I have treatened to tell OWH but H said he wld leave me and her and disappear (I think out of embarresment as we know OWH).I somehow have lost all trust in him but still love him very much despite all this and he knows that.Shall I give him the benefit of the doubt and another chance to prove himself? I think I should but will have to tell OWH if contact is renewed...I may or may not find out this time as H is getting smarter in covering tracks each time.He is a good provider,loves his children and me supposedly.We hve been M for 23 years..have 4 daughters(19,17,13,10)..he is 50 and I am 46.A had been going on for 7 yrs.OW is 41 with 3 children.My doc who is the only other person who knows abt A adv me leave matter status quo and sacrifice for sake of children at least for now.If I tell OWH..he might harm my daughters and/or H and we might have to wash dirty linen in public..risk very great.Don't know what to do and who else to talk to abt this.Pls advise as I am going nuts thinking abt it.