My WH has been sleeping on the couch for weeks because, although he has tried several times, he still has not ended the A. We were in Plan A for a few months, but when he lied to me again, I gave up and LBd like crazy. We had a very long conversation last night, set a few boundaries, and now we are back on Plan A. I want him to ML to me and I know he wants the same, but I'm not sure if I should make the move or not. Please advise.

<small>[ February 18, 2004, 02:13 AM: Message edited by: Keepin' the Faith ]</small>

I believe this is a personal decision. I didn't want anything to do with FWS after d-day, but then about a month later, it was like a light switch had turned on. I thought about seducing FWS, but I never did. We did go to Retrouvaille while A was on-going and we started being intimate again. I knew he hadn't ended the A, but I was okay with what I was doing.

I did wonder that if we had broken up, if I would have hated myself for doing that. Maybe, but as in alot of things in life, we sometimes make mistakes. If you sleep with your husband because you want to, not because you are trying to manipulate him, then I think it is okay.

I just took each day one at a time. If I felt emotionally close to FWS, then I slept with him. But about a month after that, I realized I didn't want to be with him if he was still with OW and I stopped being with him until the A ended.