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Joined: Jan 2002
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I decided (or God did) that I should go to college. so I am. H is driving me crazy.. jealous.. funny thing is he had an affair. I didn't and aren't.. I look at other men but don't see them as men just as people.. I understand his worry about it. But am stiil having a hard time with it.
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Joined: Sep 2003
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Good for you. How long ago was the affair. Sounds like he is projecting his guilt onto you. Have you done the emotional needs questionnaire here?
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Joined: Nov 2003
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Isn't it funny how the WSs are the ones who cannot be trusted as far as you can throw them and then they turn around and tell us they do not trust us BSs?
My husband has told me he doesn't trust me. I've never given him a reason not to. I think the same thing about projecting the guilt onto you.
Maybe they think that if they are so easily led into temptation, maybe we are also?
Just a thought.........
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Joined: Dec 2003
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Your right it's not right and you shouldn't put up with it.
My WW was of course cheating and deceiving me, and then she found out her OM was lying and cheating on her with a friend and college. (He was the supervisor of their lab.) However, instead of thinking of him as a lie and a cheat, she now thinks that because her "soulmate" would betray her, she doesn't trust ME. (Say What?) Not that she thinks I will have an A. No she thinks she can't believe what I say and do. (Concerning our relationship) Even though I've been nothing but straight with her all the way through this.
WS's really are a breed of their Own!
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