Hi to anyone..
I not ashame to say because I know that I was wrong to do what a did.. but a few years ago..something happend with one of my boyfriend friend..
I told my bf but he still believe that there more to it that what I said...
He won't come to see a conselling until I go to get hypnotise.. which I not really for..
I told him what happend and he said that there is too much considence for what I say..
Not too sure what to do this fling happend 2 years ago and he still get angry about it and ask questions..(we have been together for 16 years and i'm 36) and have a 12 yrs old boy...

If anyone have any suggestions for me I would be very happy..

Thanks again

Hi Passport.

I am sorry you find yourself in this situation.

I can understand your BFs suspicion. It is devastating to be betrayed by a spouse/Partner.

If you have no more to reveal, why would you not choose a hypnotist to settle his mind?

Only honsty can rescue the situaion that lying has caused.

All blessings

Thanks...for your suggestion...
Its not that I don't want to go to hypnotist...I phone a lots of place and all the suggested me is to go to a couple counsellor.. there is one Dr. who would do it but he said that my bf can't come in the room with us.. that he will get the resuld next session..
What I don't understand is that he did mistake too.. where he lied to me .. he was telling me that he was going to his friend pick up some of his mail and next day I found out that he was going to see one of my girlfriend.. and pass sometime with her.. she was telling me that all kind of stuff he said about me.. and that he was trying thing with her..
Well I confront him with the situation and he said that she was saying those thing.. so who you believe.. time pass and years pass and I let it go.. I never know what really happen between those two.. but I never ask and ask question like he does..sometime when he nag me with questions left right and center.. I tell him that he made mistake to and lied to me too.. and I don't do that. I try to believe him because other wise if you keep wonder .. and wonder.. you can't fonction...but when I mention her.. he get mad..
He tell me that he did do nothing with her..
And of course I got to believe him.. but for me.. well I told him that I did something with that guy I admit to it.. but he doesn't believe me...

I can't live like this.. for exemple.. today I went for a coffee at work.. well he saw that guy driving on the street by my work and and he ask me if I saw him.. I DID NOT..BUT he got mad and think I'm lying..
Let see if I would of see him pass by.. and told him that I saw ( ??? ) well he would ask me all kind of question like if I waive at him or did he stop... well ok its normal that he ask those question BUT once I answer to those questions he should believe me or if he doesn't belive me or he can't he should not ask questions..
Why ask if he doesn't believe me..

Really I'm not sure what to do.. I really feel sorry for him because its seem that he doesn't know how do deal with his pain but at the same time I can see how he think like that..