I am fairly new to this board, and have to relay a tragic story that i just found out about today.<BR>I knew that my cousin's daughter ( shana ) was seperated from her husband for the past 4 months.They live 2,000 miles from me, so I did not know any more of the story, ( about the seperation ) until I recieved a phone call last night from my cousin. ,Shana like i said, has been seperated for 4 months. It was mutual agreement that they not see other people ( date ) during the seperation. Shana met a MM at work and began an affair with him. She was caught by her H a month later, in the parking lot of her work. She told her H she wanted to be with this MM, and she hoped he would leave his wife for her. The MM's wife knew nothing of the affair yet. Shanas husband decided to get revenge by confronting the OM's wife, and tell her what her husband has been up to. Shana heard of his plans and immediatly called the OM, told him what was about to happen. The wife had just left to run errands. So, the MM decided to take matters into his own hands, scared of his wife finding out about the affair. Shanas H arrived at the house, ( unarmed ).. the MM confronted him, a fight broke out.. MM ran into the house and got a shotgun and shot Shanas H in the back as he was trying to get out of there. The MM is now in jail, attempted murder,Shanas H lays in a hospital bed, on a resperator, paralyzed, he has a 50/50 chance of making it. I know this is a rare thing, but it does happen,,, please dont let it happen to any of you. My family is so shaken up right now, and going thru alot, all because of revenge.Shanas H is such a good guy, he did not want to get physical with the MM, and this happened. Shana is left to take care of ( if he doesnt pass on ) a paralyzed H, and their 2 kids, the MM is in jail, and will be for a long time.Their kids have to live without their dad. This is a tragedy, and it hurts. Please think beofre you take revenge, you never know what might happen.

my prayers will be with your family.<P>God Bless

My prayers and thoughts are with your family. That is SO SAD <P>

Thanks for sharing that, it is very very sad. I don't want revenge. I want my husband and I to have the best marriage, and I have forgiven him. This is just tragic.

I am so sorry for your family. My prayers are with you. Let's remember, "Vengence is mine, said the Lord."<BR>God bless you,<BR>cc

I am really sorry to hear that, my prayer is with you and your family. At the moment, I am not thinking about revenge anymore. I am using my energy for things that are healthier for me spiritually.<P>Peace & love,<BR>Saskia<P>The best revenge is to show your enemy that you are living a good live by all means.

How very tragic, my thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Your family will be in my prayers.<P>------------------<BR>Give to the world the best you have, and the best will come back to you.<BR>* Viki

Agree with everyone, it is a tragic strory. However, it does go to show that the way to inform the OP's spouse that their partner is having an affair with your spouse is by telephone or in writing, and anonymously! Take care!<P>--Wex