After 2 years living together in a commited, loving relationship, my girlfriend is moving out. Been to therapy 2 times together and it hasn't helped to bring us together, but we are closer and understand eaach other better than ever. Jackie is questioning her love for me, her feelings about us, and says she needs to be alone, be independant. Says this is my house, I have this great job, 4 horses, ect. and she is just another thing. Nothing could be further from true. I love her unconditionally, and have wanted to get married for a year. She is 31 and I am 38. We have a wonderful, fantastic life together. we share so many things in common, cycling, Polo, reading, gardening together, mutual friends at fun dinner parties, a love of each others parents. She is the first to admit"this should work, but I don't feel the passion I should. I am Devestated. A major grief reaction, sleeplesness, reaching out all over the place for answers. The therapist asked what she wanted, " to be independant, get my own place ect." All I need to sleep at night is the basic commitment, don't involve any one else. No new sexual partners. Lets work on things. She will not say she can even do that. I know she loves me, although she doubts it. There has been no fighting over this, no anger or arguing, just a circular discussion. She tearfully looked for a studio, a few miles away. Will move her things 4/1. Our house is full of pictures of us she framed, things we bought together for the house ect. I know thisa must be hard for her too. She is moving into a small, expensive studio, from a comfy, custom home on 3 acres that she pays only a $400 share in with me. I can understand her need for independance, but not at the cost of the best relationship( we both admit) we have ever had. I said I wanted to marry a year ago, and jackie agrees she would have said yes, but we wouldprobably be where we are now. I think she would have been more likely to want to take steps to work things out. Now there is no connection holding us together, marrriage, children etc. I am terrified of losing her forever. Part of me wants to belive this is temporary and will be a good learning experiance, but I look at myself in the mirror and say " She says she doesn't want to live with you, she dosn't feel the love she used to and she wants to be alone. I am not a happy man. I am throwing this out to you folks who take the time to read these messages in hope of soem further insight. Thank you.<BR>Bob
