I am going to tell this like a story so it can be followed without being confused. My husband and children email each other. Mostly the 5 year old girl.<P>I checked email this morning and Robert had sent and email to Sara as usual, and as usual added a snide remark about me in the email. Then I got to work and he had answered some of my emails from yesterday about where to meet him to exchange Sara in the morning so I can go shopping, those emails came in to me at 2:00am according to the time mark on them.<P>So first I emailed him and told him if he could not email Sara without lashing out at me, then not to email her. (that was from home)<P>Then I emailed him from work and told him to stop sending me emails in the middle of the night because I didn't want to know what time he came home.<P>He emailed back and said...<BR>I didn't go anywhere last night, so there.<P>I emailed back and said....<BR>I don't care what you did, don't send me emails in the middle of the night,<BR>because my imagination thinks what it wants to. <P>He emailed and said....<BR>your imagination is what gets you into trouble. you need to stop.<P>Then my last email was....<BR>That is why I need to detach. Because we are both going to end up hating each other<BR>because of my imagination. So please just let me detach. I will do just fine<BR>no matter what you eventually decide to do with your life.<P><BR>His final email was....<BR>Fine.<P><BR>So now maybe he knows what it feels like for someone you love so much to be telling you to leave them alone.

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Laura, what are you THINKING???? WHY WHY WHY are you still having sex with him? WHY WHY WHY are you still giving away pieces of yourself for next to nothing in return? You will NEVER get him back that way. He is LOSING respect for you!!!! All he is seeing is that he doesn't have to do much to get you OR to keep you if he decides-IF IF IF he decides-to come back. How is that for a formula for future misery? Lady, you're virtually guaranteeing it!<P>Also, about the hitting. This was wrong, wrong, wrong, and he had EVERY right to leave you for that. When a man hits a woman, he's SCUM. Why are we so forgiving of women hitting men? No, they can't typically do the damage that a man can, that much is true. But hitting should never enter into a relationship...it only spells disaster. Not only did you abuse him physically, you did NOTHING for his male self-esteem and ego-think about it...you hit and he STAYED!!! Of course the stakes are higher for him to come back, especially if anyone else KNOWS you hit and he stayed. He'd be viewed as a wimp, and rightly so. I'd let it go if I were you, get some counseling, find out why you have this tendency towards physical violence, DO something about it, and for God's sake don't get involved with anyone until you get it under control! You also have to think of the example you're setting for your children. IS this the example of a relationship you want to set?