Darn! here I am , feeling like I did 12 weeks ago when I first found out about H's affair. I don't want to function at all in any normal ways. I sit here and jsut keeping refreshing the web pages and reading and hoping for something to fly my way that will make things alright with me again. Actually there is more than just the affair bothering me-today was a very terrible days with a ton of bad news that doesn't pertain to this subjeect Why does it rain when it pours? Anyone ready for ladies night out? All you gotta do is call-i need a break!<P>heartache (and boy does it)

I sure could you a ladies' night out, or even any good news about anything. The last few days have been miserable, and my 13 year old is saying there is absolutely nothing to look forward to, and I sure can't think of anything to tell him. I went to leave today and the garage door started going half way up and down by itself so I couldn't get the car out, and I nearly fell apart.

gals, that was me 2 days ago...i just did not function. it is tooo yucky.<BR>i need a VERY strong strawberry daiquiri...got a blender?

heartache,<BR>What a cute title to your post, it just about says it all !!!!!!!!!!! <BR>I don't want to depress you girls any more, but, 7 catastrophes happened to me after I was hit with my H's bad Brain period. I think it would have been almost impossible to get through them without him. I think it brought us closer together, I know sometimes it does just the opposite. I guess I have been lucky in some respects. <BR>12 weeks is a long time, but, not really! I think you will find that you will get stronger as TIME goes by, but you will have to still work on it. I got really tired, then I started getting energy. Hang in there, it's been 18mo. for us, now we have a new life, it can work! <BR>I'll bring Cantalope and Strawberry Dip !<P>------------------<BR>"TIME" <P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by Almost Happy (edited August 27, 1999).]

hi gals,<BR>Count me in too. This has been just an awful week. We can have the party at my house. I've got beer, wine and Tequila! Some days are just better than others.<P>Nellie- How are you? I haven't been posting much. Feeling like I can't really give any good advice these days. I've been thinking about you. Are the kids going w/ H this weekend? I hope not.<P>Take care, ladies, we're all in the same boat.<BR>cc

OK ladies, I'll be the designated driver (I've already been where you are). I'll pour them and take care of you all I know this is such a tough time for you, but there is hope. I never thought I would be where I am today, my heart breaks for each and every one of you. Sometime I'll have to tell you all the crazy things I did during that period of my life aka H*LL. So, just let me know the time and place and I'll be ready to lend a shoulder (and a great set of ears).

ceecee,<BR>My kids are only going to the OW's for the day this weekend, thank goodness. I am dreading next month when my other college age daughter goes back and there will be nobody here if the kids go to her house. Spending time with my friends is not feasible - I don't know anyone who isn't married with kids, and they spend their weekends with their families, of course.

If I could make the font very small I would and I'd say, (in very small letters), "can I come too?" I'm a betrayer, but I could use some good girlfriends to hoop it up with. I'll bring chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream. Please? <p>[This message has been edited by facing choices (edited August 27, 1999).]

LOL-thru my tears I laugh. Each post gets better!! Let's not stop. So-we have the booze, the driver, and ice cream...........how close to WA are all of you?<P>I am so sorry to be so down. My brother in law-H's brother-46 yrs old is dying of cancer-first it was in his lungs then the lymph nodes, then the bones and now the liver. I feel so darned bad for him. He doesn't want any of the family to go see him and he is about a 3 1/2 hr drive away. My H is torn apart. I even offered tot rade his bro plcaes-right now I just don't feel like I have a lot to live for (i know i know i know!!!!! my kids right?). I know I am blowing smoke-but maybe when the air clears I will get back on track. Thanks for the laffs-and really-any of you show up on my doorstep it is alright with me!!<P>heartache

OMG.... I love the title of this tread!!! <BR>I hope I'm not too late for the party... I have a bucket of "red vines" and a gallon of Margaritas. <P>Butterfly <P>PS-- Heartache.... I'm so sorry to hear about your BIL. My uncle had a cancer like that. <BR>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Butterfly (edited August 28, 1999).]

heartache,<BR>I looked for you E-mail # on the E-mail thread, thought I'd give you some insight about your Brother in Law that I went through just this week myself.<BR><P>------------------<BR>"TIME" :)<P><BR>

Oh no, WA? And I was just going to throw a bottle of wine in the car!! <P>BOY could I use a Ladies Night Out with a few smart, sophisticated women who know what it's like to live with the lies, the defensiveness, the not-knowing! None of my girlfriends know what it's like. I think they get tired of listening to me vent and think I should just move on already.<P>heartache, LOVE the title to this thread! I've been shaving my legs this week since my H has been hanging around. I've been asking myself that same question. LOL<P>Lizbeth<P>p.s. anyone got enough frequent flier miles to get us all together?

I haven't ever flown :-(( Therefore I have no frequent flier miles - hehehehehe.<P>I chose the name for this post because I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeee country music. It was one of the many things that the OW and I had in common. This is the name of a song.<P>Anyhow--------you all just get in your cars and head out-I won't be going anywhere soon. <P>Liz-be glad you can talk to someone-who cares if they are tired of listening-lol. I have one friend that I have told that lives nearby but she has been doing things that I am not sure how to take lately so I haven't even talked to her for several days.<P>Almost Happy-my e mail is shezalady@solidnet.com. I will look forward to hearing from you