My original post is over under the topic "Separate and Desparate".<P>We've been separated for about 1 month now. I'm using Plan A from a distance. I am paying all the bills as she looks for work; hence I am still trying to meet some EN. My counselr says this is going to take 6 months before I can move back in. I am terrified that she is going to find an OP in that amount of time. She may have already. I don't know. I only know I have no intetion of dating or anything other than trying to bring my W back out of Withdrawal.<P>I feel that I cannot move back in until she asks me to. She is currently in complete withdrawal. I'm using all of Harley's methods. There's been no sign of a crack in her armpor yet, and I know it takes time. However, my insides are turning because I have a fear that I am going to lose her unless I can get back under the same roof and let her see my LB-free behavior from day-to-day. How do I get back in?

Time is of the essence. Please have patience. If I have learned anything it is to find constructive things to do during this cooling period. Bowling...swimming pool nearby, do you enjoy golfing? Activity is a very healthy way of spending time on yourself. Waiting can seem like an eternity if your not busy. Make an effort on YOURSELF...this will help tremendously during this difficult period. <P>------------------<BR>NewfoundlandGal

FYI...the thread for this topic has been moved over to Negotiating in Marriage. In my desperation, I was originally posting this on all the forums to maximize the responses. My apologies.