I have been married for five years and have a two year old. About two years ago I found some emails that my H had been writing to someone he met online. I confronted him and he explained what was going on and also apologized. He said he did not want to loose me and that he would try to be the kind of husband he knew he should be. We started working on fulfilling our needs to each other and everything seemed to be going great. Then I find out that lent his friend money out of our credit card so that I wouldn't know. I confronted him about that and he apologized and felt horrible that he went behind my back. There have been two more similar incidents like these, where I have had to confront him before he told me the truth. <P> Recently I caught him chatting online with another person. He was saying some pretty horrible things about our marriage and the fact that he was not completely happy with me. I was very hurt but felt like I need to fight for my marriage. We have had one counseling session and have been working on making each other happy. But I am having second thoughts. I grew up in a family where my father cheated on my mother several times. I never understood why she didn't leave. She lived a horrible life..always wondering if he was lying or not. I don't want to live that way. The only time he tells me the truth is when I have evidence. What sad is that I don't even think he tells himself the truth. Why should I put everything I have into making this work if he cannot tell me the truth? Does anyone have any answers?<P>Thanks

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