My husband and I just recently celebrated our 1 year anniversary and I wish I could say that the past year has been the best year of my life. But I can't! One month before our 1 Year I found out that my husband was making $16,000 less than what he had told me. This was two weeks after we closed on our new house. Today I found out that the university where he played basketball, football, and graduated with his BA...the university records office has never heard of him! Now I must go home to face a stranger who I love very much. I am not looking forward to it. What is the best way to approach this situation!?!? How can I ever learn to trust him again? How is this going to affect our 8 month old son!?!?

why do you think he lied to you? any ideas?

Well, when he admitted to the lie about his salary, he said that it was because he was ashamed. I explained that I loved him and nothing was going to change that. I also asked him if he had anything else to tell me and he said, "no." Yet, I continue to find more and more that have been lies. I have a degree and maybe he feels like less of a man because he less education than his wife?? I don't know! And the strange this is...I am not even mad anymore. I have only known for three days and my anger is gone. The Lord has given me a sense of peace. the feeling I have now, is just curiousity and empathy. The empathy because I don't understand why he thinks the "real" him isn't good enough to be. I am curious to know why he believes he has to try to be someone that he is not. I guess he doesn't understand the idea of marriage and unconditional love. He must be so down on himself and feel that I wouldn't accept him if I knew the truth. But I guess that is something that I need to explain to him when I bring this issue up for discussion. I love him--degree or no degree. He is still my husband and the one that I love. These lies just have to stop. I have an idea of how to bring this issue up for discussion. Any suggestions?