Hello, I am new here but am searching for answers/advice. My husband and I have been married for 18 years and we have five children ranging in ages from 3-17. My problem is that my husband travels a lot with his job. He is out of town about every other week for 3-4 days at a time. Sometimes he is gone each week for those amount of days. Anyways...he is gone a lot! Most of the time his travel is within the states but he also does international travel. My problem is that I am so so so tired of it. I'm tired of him leaving me and the kids during the week...I'm tired. So, I have asked him to compromise and eliminate his international travel. You would have thought that I cut off his right arm. He is MAD MAD MAD...I feel our relationship slipping away every day. I don't think that I am being unreasonable...I think that I am only asking him to meet me 1/2 way by cutting out one portion of his travel. I did not ask him to stop traveling completely (like I wish he would), but just stop the international travels. Traveling is required by his job but he is the boss so he can pick and choose when and where he goes. There are many people in his office that would love to travel that do not have families. He is just a perfectionist and thinks "it won't be done right if I dont do it myself". I really know that the kids need him now and it is hard to console them at times when he is gone, especially the 3 and 5 year old - they miss their daddy!. Please help...please just let me know if I am the one that is being unreasonable. I can feel our relationship and thus our marriage slipping away as a result of this "fight". Thanks so much.

Seems like you need to set some real consequences for your husband. They need to be serious enough to get him to stop and listen. What is important to him that you can extend some control over? Use separation as a very last resort...try something else...everything else...first. Something simple like not acknowledging his wants when he is home. This is only my opinion...but it works for me when my wife gets selfish.