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Ok.. here's the story. My husband and I work in the same company. We've never had problems with other employees getting in between before.. so here's the story. Our place of employment is most female workers.. expect for my husband and the cook. several weeks ago.. it was rumored that my husband had made a comment about another co workers [censored]. We laughed it off and never thought anything about it. However, a week later I happened to find this same co workers number in some stuff of my husband's, no big deal I knew why he had it.. although we did talk about it. That was the end of that. BUT.. the day after this.. This very same co worker askes my husband why he wasn't talking and joking with her.. his reply.. "My wife told me to stay away from you, I knew he said this, as he told me we laughed because I thought he was joking.. but now I learn he also told her "My wife found your number in some of my stuff" How and why would he do that to us? Especially in our place of work?!! and what do I do about it? PLEASE SEND ADVICE!!!

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Is it possible that she put the number in his stuff? I would hope that any grown man who was trying to fool around wouldn't be stupid enough to carry the number home with him.

Maybe he is trying nicely to let her know to back, that he's not interested without making a big stink.

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hmmm... Like I've said, I already knew he had the number.. had it for years. However, using me as a means to have this girl back off was definitely the wrong way to handle it to avoid a big stink. The stink now is between my husband and me. As far as carrying number home. I have never in 21 yrs of marriage snooped in my husband's stuff, therefore, he would have never even thought of me doing so.

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If he wasn't interested, then why did he go to work and tell this particular employee the discussion between he and I of her number?

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I would spend time fleshing out what really bothers you. Ask yourself these questions:

1. How do you feel?
2. What about this situation makes you feel this way?
3. What can you do to make yourself feel better about this situation?

Once you've clearly articulated what bothers you, then I would talk with your husband.

April


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