Hi
I agree with most everything I read on this site. However, the rules for deciding on the division of household tasks seem to be to just be setting up a big game of chicken. There are people with disabilities that cannot do a certain job. If in addition a couple is on a tight budget, there may not be a way to pay someone else to do the detested job. A person can have very low standards or a high threshold for disorder. There are even some household tasks that must be done by law, like taking in the garbage cans! For example, if one spouse doesn't want to take the trash cans in and lets them sit in the street until the cops come by and give the owners a ticket, how is that fair to the other spouse that physically cannot bring the cans in, but to whom the job is more important? Being married, the spouse that couldn't bring in the cans is still responsible for the fine. What if there is no money to pay the fine or no neighbor kid to hire? No one wants to pay taxes either. Should we just then avoid our civic responsibility because "we don't want to"? You seem to advise that we we just wait until one spouse becomes so desperate and aggravated that they then have to take on all the responsibility for a job themselves, regardless of their physical or financial suitability to do it! How is this helpful?