To begin with, I'm new to this site and new to this concept. But I do like the message although it takes a little to warm up to.

To cut to the chase my question is regarding implementation of this path. I mean if I agree to this and everything, not to do anything without enthusiastic agreement, how do I get started when I know she will not even read this website?

You see, my wife is has very strong opinions and one of them is that she does not want to participate in counseling. I don't know why but suspect it has something to do with purity of emotions. In other words if two people really love each other counseling should not be necessary. further if counseling is needed, might as well leave. When we were first married, I floated the idea of counseling just to put things in perspective, her reaction was not what I would want to repeat and being married to her for 4 years I'm sure her opinion has not changed.

Appreciate any responses

Well,

Does she want to live in fantasyland, or improve her marriage?

She is immature.

Life is tough.

People do not mesh perfectly. No one does.

People converse with each other from differing persectives, such that what is said is not always received as intended.

Sometimes, an interpreter is what's needed.

I think you need to take charge of this, and push her off her high horse.

Good luck.

MLM2,

Thanks for your message, I was reading other sections of this site and considered I should move this topic to EN, plus I added a few more details...

Try this...My H and I tried this last night and we worked out quite a few problems that have been plagueing us over the past month.

And we felt better about it afterward.

Dr. Harley's POJA explanation via Cerri