I wish there was a 'relieved' icon right now... because this has been one hell of a ride!<P>He's moving out next week, and his girlfriend is still in the picture... darn it all, she loves him, and maybe she'll treat him well... I sure hope so... but he seems not to want her. It's sad, because once you sleep with someone, it's kinda hard to get rid of them! I have no idea where this will ultimately go, but I love him enough to let him go with some form of dignity. I've been angry far too long.<P>I am doing great, really... considering... I was in an emotional cave for about three months, taking my Xanax and talking to my therapist... and over the weekend, I finally just decided to come out into the sunshine! <P>I'm sure this is a part of the very long infidelity ride, but it's coming to an end, even if I feel sad about it one day, up about it the next. <P>My gorgeous David will always be a part of my life, one way or another. Yes, I'll miss him... but dammit, it's been WAY too hard of a ride. I think I'm ready to move forward...<P>Onward I go...<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Nobody knows what you want except you, and nobody will be as sorry as you if you don't get it. ~Barry Manilow<p>[This message has been edited by new_beginning (edited April 06, 2000).]

Sheryl,<P>I've been watching your story unfold since ultimo December, and I'm glad that you seem to have found some kind of peace now.<BR>I've been expecting this to happen for a long time, but you have given it all the chances that anybody could ask for and then some, too bad it didn't work out, but ultimately I think that you have taken the road that leads to the happiest future for you.<BR>I do wish you well on your journey towards uncharted territory, and hope you will find happiness and joy again, you deserve it.<BR>Hope you'll enjoy the sunshine...

Hi Sadman,<P>Thank you for your wonderfully kind words... The thing I find most interesting about my situation, aside from the fact that it's *mine* , is that I came to rebuild after my affair, and it's his affair that has killed us. It's really hard to hate the OW in my case too... she's really quite a nice woman, and she stupidly thought that when she gave her body to my H that it meant something... silly, silly woman! I feel for her, although yes, some days I'd love to sit her down and give her a speech that begins: "He's cheated on me four times, once with you, and here's what's gonna happen..." So see, I still harbor some bitterness myself. Still and all, I am content in my life, and look forward to the day when there is some final resolution.<P>I've been gone for awhile, and I'm frankly wondering why you're on the divorce side of the board... I thought things were going good for you... I hope I'm not wrong?? Please fill me in... if you don't come back, I'll go find out... I do care.<P><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Nobody knows what you want except you, and nobody will be as sorry as you if you don't get it. ~Barry Manilow

Sheryl,<P>Our marriage is going on fine, in fact better than ever. <BR>I strayed over here out of curiosity, and also to check up on some of the people, whose stories both my wife and I have been following, and who have been inspirational to us.<BR>I saw your post and was glad to see your name again and with hope restored.<P>Take care, enjoy the springtime and bask in the sun, I'll bet you feel like 2000 tons have been lifted off your shoulders.<BR>I hope the kids are doing fine as well, now the dust have settled <p>[This message has been edited by SadMan (edited April 07, 2000).]

Hey Sheryl,<P>I was wandering how you've been. I'm happy to hear you are doing better. I don't post much, but I couldn't resist reponding to you. It was nice to hear from you. Stay strong. Praying for you always!!<P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com

Sheryl, <BR>I am glad to hear you are doing ok. The anger and resentment can just eat us up! I hope that David realizes what a special woman you are and what he is giving up....<P>------------------<BR>Susan

~Sheryl,<P>I sorry things haven't work out the way you thought they would...<P>...you'll still have a great journey in life...<P>...you've grown... and it's been my honor to witness it!<P>I do feel for David too...<BR>...but he'll learn of consequences too.<P>Enjoy the spring...<BR>...it is refreshing!<P>Your friend... <P>Jim

Sheryl:<P>Just popped over here & saw your post. Don't know whthr to be sad for you, or happy for you (maybe some of both)...<P>Anyway, glad to see you out of the cave, and moving towards more peace in your life.<P>Hugs--<P>Kathi

Hi Sheryl. I can't really "welcome" you here, because it is a hard place to be. But I've missed reading your posts and those of us on this board need positive hand-holding just like on the other boards.<P>You and I have been on similar, rocky paths, we're both betrayed & betrayers, but wanted our marriages to work so much...and have come to the conclusion, it isn't likely, so we've taken the initiative...after all the Plan A/B. Somedays it feels good, other days it feels like the failure it is. (I'm on a failure day).<P>Keep checking in.<P><P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10

Sheryl,<P>Sorry to to see you joining us over here now too. Like somebody else said, you have done everything you can to rebuild your marriage.<P>Best of luck,<P>Bob

Hi NB -<P>I can't say that I am happy you are here but I can say that I am glad you feel some peace.<P>Love Ya and Big Hugs,<P>Sheba

Hey Sheryl:<P>Trust me that I know how you feel! I hope in time I will see the "sunshine" and want to bask in it. I'm not there yet. Still fighting this and resenting the heck out of it knowing full well I can't change anything except myself.<P>You really have tried so very hard. <P>Hugs,<BR>Tanya

Hi all, and thank you for the support! <P><B>SadMan</B>,<P>2000 tons is right!! I'm happy you are doing so well!! Big congrats there! <P>Thanks for asking about the kids... yes, they're doing fine... not great, because this is never easy, even with older teenagers, but they want us to be happy.<P>Hello to the beautiful <B>jamie-lee</B>,<P>I'm sorry for your pain too, and I think of you often. Take care, sweetie!<P>Hi <B>sue</B>,<P>Ya know what? I think David does realize, but he just can't find his way back. Maybe he will learn to appreciate his next wife... it would be nice to think we can all learn something from this pain.<P>My dear <B>Jim</B>,<P>What a sweet, sweet message! Thank you... and remember all that you've said to me and apply it to you... you've had a longer trial than I have, and I think you forget!<P>Hey <B>Kathi</B>,<P>Big bear hugs to you too!!! <P><B>Lor</B>,<P>I'm so sorry for your situation too... I've read a bit... ick. Sweetheart, you are NOT a failure... don't let anyone tell you otherwise... we did try, didn't we? <P>Hey <B>Bob</B>,<P>Yeah, well... yes, here we are. What else can be said? Best wishes to you too!<P><B>Warrior Princess</B>,<P>You have stuck by me (and David) through it all... many, many thanks, and much love.<P><B>Tanya</B>,<P>I know you know how this is... and we'll both be fine!!!! And a great big hug for you!<P><p>[This message has been edited by new_beginning (edited April 07, 2000).]

Sheryl,<P>Welcome to our "world". Hang inthere, you will be ok.<P>Love Ya,<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Hey Bill,<P>Love ya tons too!!! I wish we weren't here... but it's nice being among friends!

Hey Sheryl,<BR> You still around? You're going to be OK,you know.You'll get past this,and one day,(like someone told me)you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.<BR> Maybe what you need is a vacation.Like on a nice beach in Hawaii,watching all those young,good-looking men walk by... <BR> Take care of yourself. --Murph

Hey Murph <P>So here we are on a Friday night... well...we need to get something a bit more exciting to do, don't we? Thanks for checking in... that hawaii idea is a good one, by the way <P>~Sheryl

Thought I'd check in here to see how everyone is doing and look who I find!<P>Darn, I wish things had gone differently, but I'm glad you have peace now.<P>Think of you often.<P>Luv ya,<P>Lori

My sweet Lori,<P>I'm so happy for your success... my story just ended differently, that's all... but I'm trying my darndest to end this with some love left, ya know, so we don't kill each other! <P>Love you, and big hugs, Sheryl

Hi, NB!<P>Just cruising the neighborhood and saw you post. Hope you are doing well.<P>Take Care,<P>JL