Once again with my husband the problem has come back to our sex life. My question is-----how do I get my husband to be interested in ME during sex??? He tried initiating last night, but it was SO one sided. When he intitiates I feel what he is doing is saying ---OK see I want to have sex, you need to get excited. Which doesn't work for me at all. Sometimes when he wants to have sex I will just tell him to make it a quickie (so he can be satisified and I don't have to act passionate when I am not feeling it). When I initiate I often say --- this one is all for you , don't worry about me. And it's fine then. But that's all. Often when I initiate sex I am making my goal to please him and to make it a great experience for him. How do I get my husband to reciprocate every once in a while??? Is there a book that would be helpful?? (One that I wouldn't be embarrassed buying) How do I bring this up without hurting his feelings more? Thank you--once again I am relying on the anonimity of this site and the hope that someone else has been here!<p>[This message has been edited by GBM (edited 11-10-98).]