OK, I can't hardly believe it but my H, with the help of his parents just bought the O/W condo. He said that she is moving to another state and it is a great location on a lake ect. Like I did not know where she lived. She is moving and I am glad...but H is still not over her.<P>I asked him if this was his way to still stay close to her and he said no...he just like the location ect. <P>We talked about our division of money ect last night...there is no going back on this divorce. He is seeing his lawyer today to make a proposal to mine. It looks like I will be a fairly good shape for about 4 years. But by that time I will have my new degree and can start teaching school.<P>I just do not think he feels the pain that I feel that he bought his mom a dog with the O/W, (she bought the female and he bought the male brother), so I have to look at that dog when my kids visit their grandmother. His mom even dog sat for her. Now he bought her condo...so if I drop the kids off I have to go where she lived. It is almost too much...<P>Am I over reacting? It is just a condo and they all look the same.....but he could have bought any one of them but her's.....but her's is the only one for sale.<P>He told me he was going to start dateing and that I should too....this is the same guy that said WE would start dateing each other after this was over. I told him he has already started since he is seeing some gal in another town already....<P>I am just venting....he also told me to stop snooping. He does not trust me....HA! He is the one that has be lying to me for months.<P>He also told me that this was not a competion between me and her.....he said we all lost...he forgets it is our KIDS that really lost in all this. <P>UUUUUGGGGG what a day.....

I would bring up the condo with your lawyer and see what he says as far as property division.<P>No you don't start dating. Gives him a reason to not look back.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

AAAArrrrrggggh! YOU all lost?!?!? Excuse me?!?!? IMO HE lost when he lost you. If anyone WON him, they won the BOOBY PRIZE. <BR>

AAAArrrrrggggh! YOU all lost?!?!? Excuse me?!?!? IMO HE lost when he lost you. If anyone WON him, they won the BOOBY PRIZE.<P>Sorry, my3kids, that kind of arrogance sets my teeth on edge. I am so sorry you have to face that condo, that dog (both of them-the four and two legged ones) and the MIL being cozy with OW. <P>The upside is that you will be flush and have plenty of coin to obtain your degree. I am thrilled for you for that plus.<P>Good luck<P>Catnip =^^= <BR>

Thank you Chris and Catnip for replying....<P>I thought maybe it was me that had lost my mind and I was over-reacting. I talked to my therapist and she said just be thankful it is a nice place for my kids to visit their father. Since O/W left him, he is the one that has to deal with living in her condo. She (my therapist) always tries to make my situation a win situation for me.<P>I am thankful that he is willing to pay child support and mantenance. So I have about 4 years to get my act together and get my degree....marry a millionaire...win the lottery ect... LOL.<P>This should make you all laugh...he wants his sleeping bag so he can sleep in it until he can afford a bed........