I'm new here. And I am having a very difficult time with going through a divorce and still living in the same house as the stbx. STBX has said that she wants to remain in the home we are renting so as not to disrupt our 5 1/2 year old's home environment. I don't think I should have to move until the divorce is final. You can all appreciate how ultimately frustrating this is and how stubborn and childish I am being in not moving. I have no intention of working things out with this woman - I've said and done some pretty cruel things to her, last one being I told her I had absolutely no "desire whatsoever" to be around her. <P>She is sleeping in our son's bed with him, and I am in the masterbedroom. We haven't had sex of anykind (kissing, etc) since Jan.'99. She filed for divorce in April '00. (well as if that matters any)<P>I'm just wondering if there were any other people out there who are as crazy as we are to continue to occupy the same residence while going through a divorce? My gut feeling is we are doing more of a disservice to our son, having him see the coldness between us, than anything else.<P>Any thoughts?

A friend of mine just recently got divorced. She lived with her H until the divorce was over and then told their children. The older one knew that things were not quite right with them but the younger one could not believe it.<BR>She moved into an apartment after the divorce.<BR>IMHO, I kinda think there should be a transition time. One that your child should have. Like doing it step by step. First seperating, then moving some furniture out, visiting back and forth then divorce. <BR>If you feel there is no chance to get back together (even at this time) that you don't want to work on meeting needs...then maybe you should start moving out...and start thinking about you and getting on with your life...what ever that holds...<P>Whatever,this is very hard and difficult...I have good days and bad days...I still have force myself to think about me and not obsess over my H. The only thing I can control is me and make my future and my childrens the best as I can.<P>I do not know if I have helped you...I am thinking about you!<P>