A cousin of his also uses AOL and I did it!! I mentioned what happened. I went on to explain and they said he was staying with his Dad and nothing had really been said. So, I asked them to talk to him. Is this BAD? WHAT HAVE I DONE?

They said he was hard headed. Well, so am I, but SHOULD I be the one asking around? They got offline for about 15 minutes and now they are back online. They have not sent me a message. Could this be a sign of bad news?<P>I am so scared. What if he rejects the invitation to come back?<P>They said it would blow over but he isnt calling to see how things are going. <P>How about some advice. IF he decides to call and work things out, what should I go for? I want to work things out right and for the right reasons but my head is still clouded.<P>IF he decides NOT to come back, I think I already know how to deal with it. <P>I suppose what I really need is to know, now that the smoke has cleared, if he is STILL wanting to stay apart.<P>I need lots of support here. I think it is worth saving. I think he and I both could stand some changing.<P>At least, I hope so.<P>Is this too soon, or wishful thinking? Any ideas? <p>[This message has been edited by LonelyInTexas (edited July 16, 2000).]

Not long ago I asked the same question about should I let him come back? And what about coming back for the wrong reasons?<P>The answer I got, and believe is the right one, is YES! And so what if it's not for the right reasons. Work on making it the relationship you both want and can enjoy and the right reasons for staying together will be more important than the reason for the second chance. <P>Go for it!

I think he ACTUALLY misses us. He actually cried and told ME that I just didn't know the pain he was going through and how much he was hurting. It would give me the idea that he would be ready to return.<P>He told me that he loved me and would call me tomorrow.<P>I hope this doesn't raise any red flags.