I left a message several days ago and only one person (thank you) wrote me back. I would really love some input from you.

<small>[ January 26, 2005, 05:22 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>

Rosie,<P>I missed your post (see my post today) but a lot of times if we can't directly relate to the situation, we don't offer much advice. I think many of us here feel at times, that since we are divorcing, we ourselves failed and what positive advice would we have? <P>But you know what? We haven't failed. We have learned, we have made new friends and we are growing stronger. We all have something positive to offer, even if its just "hi I can't relate but sending you strength". <P>This year, right around xmas, a large group of those here, all went thru the pain of discovery, court for divorce as well as other grief. So much for the new millenium, it started out rotten!<P>I noticed that this site is unusually slow lately , my only guess is many of us are out enjoying the weather and living again.<P>You can go in and reply on your own post and just say "taking it to the top again" as to bring your thread back up to the top for people to notice. Many of us are only checking in every few days, which leaves behind some new people who float in.<P>I'm hoping to take some time tomorrow to reply to all of those without replies. <P>In the meantime, hang in there, be strong, reply to other people's threads and get to know those who are actively posting and responding. <P>Prayers, Dana<BR>

Rosie - Please post your issues so we can try to help. <P>

Hey Rosie,<P>Please don't feel left out. We all want you to be able to feel "part of" our loving family here. I have only been lurking lately and haven't replied much to anyone. If you are feeling really low, know that it will pass. Work on you and you will be very much ok. Believe me I was in the pits 6 months ago now I have peace. Check out my lats thread <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/000555.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/000555.html</A> I hope it helps.<P>In case no one told you today...I love You...<P>Hang in it gets better.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR><P>May the roads rise to meet you,<BR>May the winds always be at your back,<BR>May the sun shine warm upon your face,<BR>The rains fall soft upon your fields,<BR>And until we meet again,<BR>May god hold you<BR>In the hollow of his hand.

Thank you for responding. Are you from here orginally? I grew up here in JC. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by DanaB:<BR><B>Rosie,<P>I missed your post (see my post today) but a lot of times if we can't directly relate to the situation, we don't offer much advice. I think many of us here feel at times, that since we are divorcing, we ourselves failed and what positive advice would we have? <P>But you know what? We haven't failed. We have learned, we have made new friends and we are growing stronger. We all have something positive to offer, even if its just "hi I can't relate but sending you strength". <P>This year, right around xmas, a large group of those here, all went thru the pain of discovery, court for divorce as well as other grief. So much for the new millenium, it started out rotten!<P>I noticed that this site is unusually slow lately , my only guess is many of us are out enjoying the weather and living again.<P>You can go in and reply on your own post and just say "taking it to the top again" as to bring your thread back up to the top for people to notice. Many of us are only checking in every few days, which leaves behind some new people who float in.<P>I'm hoping to take some time tomorrow to reply to all of those without replies. <P>In the meantime, hang in there, be strong, reply to other people's threads and get to know those who are actively posting and responding. <P>Prayers, Dana</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by DanaB:<BR><B>Rosie,<P>Thanks for responding. I know what you mean about the new millenium. I was married since 1970 and my husband went with his mistress to Phoenix for the millenium. All I could think about was them together when it should have been us. My divorce was final in March; they married in May. That was the worst blow.I missed your post (see my post today) but a lot of times if we can't directly relate to the situation, we don't offer much advice. I think many of us here feel at times, that since we are divorcing, we ourselves failed and what positive advice would we have? <P>But you know what? We haven't failed. We have learned, we have made new friends and we are growing stronger. We all have something positive to offer, even if its just "hi I can't relate but sending you strength". <P>This year, right around xmas, a large group of those here, all went thru the pain of discovery, court for divorce as well as other grief. So much for the new millenium, it started out rotten!<P>I noticed that this site is unusually slow lately , my only guess is many of us are out enjoying the weather and living again.<P>You can go in and reply on your own post and just say "taking it to the top again" as to bring your thread back up to the top for people to notice. Many of us are only checking in every few days, which leaves behind some new people who float in.<P>I'm hoping to take some time tomorrow to reply to all of those without replies. <P>In the meantime, hang in there, be strong, reply to other people's threads and get to know those who are actively posting and responding. <P>Prayers, Dana</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by WilliamJ:<BR><B>Hey Rosie,<P>Thanks for replying. I will check out whatever you mentioned. I'm not sure what lat threads are - I'm new. I guess you're meaning the progress you have made over the months. I know now God DOES love me - I was questioning that for a while. I will make it, it just get so lonely. Hard to be 1 when you were 2 for so long. Our divorce was final in March and he has already married the OW. That is the hardest - that he could replace me so easily and fast. God bless.Please don't feel left out. We all want you to be able to feel "part of" our loving family here. I have only been lurking lately and haven't replied much to anyone. If you are feeling really low, know that it will pass. Work on you and you will be very much ok. Believe me I was in the pits 6 months ago now I have peace. Check out my lats thread <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/000555.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/000555.html</A> I hope it helps.<P>In case no one told you today...I love You...<P>Hang in it gets better.<P>Bill<P></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

Hi Rosie,<P>No I'm not from MO, but my mother was and much of her family still lives there and it was great to re-connect with assorted cousins, etc.<P>I suspect you don't want to be doing all those quotes and I'm not sure why it is happening.<P>Try restating your situation tomorrow and I bet you'll get some replies.<P>Take care.

Rosie,<P>I'm back now and will be for a few days as my kids are out of town. Be sure to send a post and I will reply.<P>Dana