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Wife told me this morning that she was done with Counseling for now. She went 4 times and she feels she is ok, nothing to work on.<P>This of courses bothers me as I certainly believe she has issues. I will continue in Counseling and let my wife see the changes.<P>I continue to try and be cordial and work on my relationship with the kids.<P>It is hard to leave wife out of planning but that is what I need to do!
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HIO,<P>there is a time value for recognition in some of this stuff, meaning, after awhile, the WS begins to feel the pain, and starts to feel remorse (usually, although not right away, and it usually takes between 6-12 months of Plan A.) <P>so, keep it up, I know people who have faked counseling just to say they did it, but still felt remorse, and came back.<P>so Plan A should be considered at least a YEAR long project.<P>keep it up.<P>thl
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Wow, a whole year of plan A! Not that I want to give up but I feel so shacky today. I just hate this feeling!<P>That up and down, out of control, loss of power feeling! I have a great support system but it seems I need more today. My gut is a mess!<P>I have been fighting with my self about calling the wife just to say hi! Feels like I need a fix! This is not health!<P>Thanks for responding!
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Don't fret over your wife not going to couneling, that's HER problem. I have been going to counseling alone for several years. My husband refuses to go, even though it has been suggested by several people. At this point, I don't let it bother me anymore. I just go myself and try to learn how to handle him and his ways. At this point, I am making a last ditch effort to salvage this relationship. If this doesn't work, I can say that after 9 years I have done all I can to try and make it work! Best of luck to you and God Bless. <P>------------------<BR>Zonie
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I hear what you are saying, it just seems like another nail in the coffin of our marriage!<P>This is hard stuff!
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