hi<BR>Ive just found this site and forum and would appreciate advice. Ive just found out one of my female friends has had a short affair which has been discovered and now doesnt know whether to stay with her husband or leave him for this man she seemingly hardly knows. <BR>As they are both very dear to me and I know they could work this out, should I get involved or not and how? Im not sure she will even want to listen to any advice I may have on forgetting this new man and saving her marriage as she seems so head in the clouds about him (she met him whilst on a conference and has been seeing him for only a few months) She has been married for 20 years. Naturally her husband is willing to do anything to save it. I hope thats enough information, I prefer not to go into any further detail and write more posts as its their situation but would really appreciate advice. Is the affair person receptive to anything friends say or not?<BR>Can friends do more harm than good? what is it the affair person needs or wants to hear thats going to make them stop and look at the situation more realistically? Unfortunately they are not on internet so cant participate here if they wanted. I will print out some of the info and book/tape references however. Thankyou!<p>[This message has been edited by azure (edited September 01, 1999).]