Hi<P>I am currently reading "Forgive and forget - healing the hurts you do not deserve" by Lewis B. Smedes. <P>Forgetting doesn't mean you walk around with amnesia but that you do not let the anguish burn you up everytime you think about the two of them or the 4 of them. Forgiving is done to release yourself from the tormentors that are eating you up. It doesn't matter whether the other two cares about been forgiven. You do it to expel the poison they have put in your soul. They made your every living so tough and the world so distant. Don't give them your right to joy and peace and love.<P>I know personally that I would never be able to recover my self worth, my mental health, my joy of life, and all the good things I deserve and need to live a fulfilling life, without the help of God. SO far, I have been to counselling sessions with pastors, and professional shrinks, as well as to two healing minitries by my church. God is merciful if you call upon him and put your faith in Jesus to help and guide you. I know, and today I experienced the most amazing healing of my emotional trauma. My mother had physical healing. too. And she was only a new yet -to-be baptised Christian.<P>Once you have received God's peace, you will find you can focus on Him and walk in His ways. You will find with relief that what your WS and OW are doing are things so far removed from you in your new life, they begin to matter less and less. Trust God to give you a new lease of life, and ask for His purpose for you. It is all up to you, but it is all worth it as well. Without Jesus, I would be dead because I would have very little hope and I wouldn't have my church friends to support and pray for us at this time.<P>You can also pray to God to soften your WS's heart towards you and your daughter so that eventually he will recognise his wrong doing towards you and your daughter and make amends by not rubbing things in your face. YOu can also pray that he will have the honour to claim his actions as his own and not your fault.<P>I believe that Jesus is the only one Who can lift me and He did even when I was not able to worship Him. My intercessors did the praying for me and he healed me of my trauma. I still have to rebuild and decide what I want but I felt a great weight lifted off my soul, and the physical violence is easily under control (I was actually hitting WS a lot and tried as I did, I could not control my violence. I was never violent before, in fact I was a very gentle couldn't hurt anything kind of person. But the OW was a violent person who used physical abuse and verbal and mental abuse and I 'became exactly like that' through soullish ties (ties transferred to you as a result of your spouse sleeping with someone else, eg. a prostitute, and you will get a spirit of lust into you as well. ). From what I can tell, the OW in your case is very insecure and she wants all because she may have lost everything through her last divorce. That could be a transfer of ties to you and you have become so insecure that you can't let go.<P>You may want to read books by Max Lucado, Derek Prince and Lewis B. Smedes, and other godly man to get peace of mind and joy back into your life.<P>If you really wish, I can pray for you. Just let me know.