<BR>Ok, in the spirit of Thanksgiving, I thought I would give us a thread just to post what we are thankful for. Most of the time we post what is bothering us or hurting us and I thought this would be a nice change.<P>I am thankful for so much in my life right now...<P>(1) My 3 healthy and beautiful sons<P>(2) My parents who take care of my kids while I work<P>(3) My job that helps me provide for my children<P>(4) My health<P>(5) Happiness that I have finally found<P>(6) My best friend Beth<P>(7) All of you guys who brought me this far<P>Thank you all for being here to cry with and laugh with! Or to just listen!<P>Love you all!<P>Mitzi

I am so glad you started this thread, Mitzi!<BR>This year it's hard to feel thankful, but I do have a few things, and I want to remind myself:<P>1)Two beautiful, healthy, loving children<BR>2)My job--it's a job I enjoy and it provides for us<BR>3)My co-workers--I love them and they have been very supportive.<BR>4)My health<BR>5)My support group--seven women who have been to hell and back with each other<BR>6)I have a best friend that I love dearly<BR>7)Most of all, I am thankful for people in here. I can't name everyone, because I'm sure I would forget someone really important, but I hope you all know who I mean, and I hope you all know how VERY much you have each meant to me. <P>Love and hugs EVERYWHERE!<P>CJ<BR><P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

I haven't been too thankful lately, and this holiday season is going to be a bit of a downer, but....<P>I'm thankful for<P>My son.<P>My friends here who have given me so much support.<P>My health.<P><P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again

Nick,<P>That's why I started this thread. To let us see that even though the holidays are tough, we can still find things to be thankful for, even if they might be only little things.<P>Take care,<BR>Mitzi

Nick,<P>Buck up <P>We are all thankful for you!<P>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Hey, I'm fine. The holidays have never been all that special to me. I guess the hardest part is going to be having her around during the two biggest holidays, knowing that it's probably all over & she feels nothing for me.<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again

I am thankful for my 3 beautiful teenage children who have been my biggest supporters<P>I am thankful for my job and my co-workers who without them I would have a much less fulfilling life.<P>I am thankful for my family as they have been there with me the past year every step of the way<P>I am thankful for my best friend Sara and thankful that is she finally going to have the healthy happy baby she has waited so long for<P>To make a long list short I am just very thankful for many things. Life may not always go the way you want it but if you stop and look at what you do have its not that bad.<P>Peace<P>Jill

I just wrote to jamie-lee (Emotions all over the place) that accepting that "he/she feels nothing" is the hardest blow, isn't it? At least it is for me. That dead look in his eye--or sometimes there's even hate. The way he just acts like all of our years together meant nothing, or if they meant anything, they were AWFUL. The deep down knowledge within myself that he just does not love me anymore AT ALL. God, that hurts like a kick in the teeth, and sets my heart to aching every time. <P>But I also wrote to Cinderella (Joy) that I can't let him win. If I go around sad and moping (like I kind of feel), he wins and I have given him another one of my days. I'm not willing to let him have one more day of my life, if he's gonna throw me away. So, I'm concentrating HARD on the people who do know me and love me (anyway), and on the joys of life (like sunrise and sunset), and on the future--not the past. <P>Nick, what she has done to you is unbelievable. The pain she has caused is devastating. It's true. But don't let her win, Nick. Don't give her another day of your life, and your joy, and your love. For a few minutes, let the hugs of your friends sink in, and for a few minutes feel gratitude for what you DO have:<P>your job that you love so well<BR>your son, who loves you dearly<BR>your home<BR>your car<BR>your music<BR>your bikes<BR>your beach<BR>your song<BR>your decorating plans<P>and most of all, your friends here who enjoy you and get a kick out of your quips and naughty writing. <P>{{Nick}}<P>CJ<BR><P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Good idea, Mitzi!<P>I give thanks for:<P>1)having two wonderful kids, who struggle with life like everyone else.<BR>2)the power of the internet to bring together caring, wonderful people who support each other in positive, sometimes hilarious, ways to get us through these difficult times, that we wouldn't have met without it.<BR>3) the caring, wonderful, insightful people here who responded to my cries for help and understanding, who forced my growth at a time when it is difficult to see very far.<BR>4)for my health, and playing sports with kids half my age reminds me that in order to maintain yourself, you need to keep your health and your fitness.<BR>5) that having a best friend to share yourself with is what the connection is all about, and makes life very precious.<BR>6)that we have so many differences in opinions that we cannot afford to alienate people just because we are afraid to learn or acknowledge that someone else might be right or different.<BR>7)<plagurization follows, I can't say it better> Most of all, I am thankful for people in here. I can't name everyone, because I'm sure I would forget someone really important, but I hope you all know who I mean, and I hope you all know how VERY much you have each meant to me. <end plagurism, footnote CJ><P>tom<BR>thl<BR>WIFTTy<P>Happy Thanksgiving<P>

Excellen topic Mitzi!<P>I am thankful for....<P>My health<BR>Being able to be Happy again<BR>My family <BR>My friends<BR>My Job <BR>Being able to travel and meet new people<BR>Finally starting to really come back out of my shell, and be ME again.<BR>My computer.... because with out it, I never would have found you all!<BR>All my family here at MB... You guys are the greatest!<P>This list could go on and on and on.... I'm really just thankful most days to be alive to experience the joys and sorrows of another day.... because if Today were perfect, we wouldn't need/have the tomorrows.<P>Smooches & Loving Thoughts,<BR>Butterfly<P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

Hi Mitzi, what a nice idea for the first of two BIG Holiday's for many of us.<P>Second, Happy Thanksgiving to all on the board.<P>I am thankful for:<P>1. My three healthy children and two of them just got straight A's on their report cards!!! <P>2. All my friends and family who have supported me from the beginning. (this includes all but one person in ExH's family too).<P>3. This site and all the great people on it, including those we may disagree with, who force us to stand up for ourselves, and sometimes even change our views just a little .<P>4. Finding happiness (and someone to share it with me) finally even though I'll never feel totally at peace with the divorce or ex's affair.<P>5. All the people here who are thankful of your health and don't take it for granted.<P><BR>Happy Holidays , Many Hugs, Dana<BR>

I couldn't pass on this one.....<P> I'm thankful for:<P> Keeping my nice house<P> Having a great job<P> Gaining back my self-esteem,and self-respect<P> Having goals,and plans for the future<P> Knowing I can make it on my own<P> Not having to help out the In-Laws all the time(they lost their handyman )<P> Having all my family and friends,including my MB friends who help me make it through this whole mess.<P> My good friend Mitz,who is going to feed everyone who shows up at her house on Thanksgiving Day!What a Sweetheart!(um,what time are you picking me up at the airport?)<P> <BR> Happy Thanksgiving!!!<P> ~~Murph <P>

Hi there,<BR>I am thankful for:<P>1. My beautiful 11 yr old daughter<BR>2. My best friend Vicki who went through the same thing exactly one year before me (except her ex did not have affair)<BR>3. My father and step-mom<BR>4. My two spoiled cats, Doce (spanish for 12 - has extra toes on front paws) and Willy<BR>5. My friends here at home and on these internet support groups<BR>6. My therapist, Dr. Boris Greenberg<BR>and finally I am thankful that I do not have to deal with my difficult former in-laws.<BR>

Since everyone said pretty much what I feel I'm grateful or thankful for I'll just say All of the above <P>I can't express enough gratitude those on this site that have held my hand, and made me look the world straight in the eye over the past year. Everyone here has touched my heart in ways that I never thought were possible. There are a few in particular that I have a special kinship to and a deep affection for. I thank you each for being my friend and companion through our journey.<P>GADS I'm such a sap! LOL frikkin tears rolling down my cheek as I type this.<P>I Love You All very much. Thank you for giving me the ability to feel that. <P>Bill<P>------------------<P><BR>May the roads rise to meet you,<BR>May the winds always be at your back,<BR>May the sun shine warm upon your face,<BR>The rains fall soft upon your fields,<BR>And until we meet again,<BR>May god hold you<BR>In the hollow of his hand.<P>[This message has been edited by WilliamJ (edited November 20, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by WilliamJ (edited November 20, 2000).]

Well I feel the need to put in my two cents worth too. Even though this will be my first set of holidays without having my daughter around the entire time, I'm still thankful for alot.<BR>I'm thank for;<BR>my beautiful seven year old daughter who never fails to tell me or show me how much she loves me.<BR>My wonderful supportive family, who wouldn't hesistate in the least to do anything they can for me.<BR>My company and customers for supporting my business and providing me with a steady paycheck.<BR>My friends here, and all around me for giving me the support and encouragement to continue along the path I've been thrust upon. <BR>And finally to Yamaha, for providing me with the technology of a state of the art dirt bike and outlet to beat the living bejesus out of all the pent up anger and frustrations that I've had over the last nine months. <BR>Happy Thanksgiving all. Get stuffed.

Thanksgiving at Mitzis? what a great idea <P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again

<BR> What am I thankful for well just into this whole seperation thing for about 3 months ago but here goes:<P> My 2 Kids love me ...they are confused as hell but their unconditional love<BR>gets me through the roughest day.<P> My friends love me , and have supported me through the heights of my depression<P> That my mood swings have had a medical cause and are being treated ( thyroid )<P> That my vision will probably stabilize but never return fully ( but I won't go blind !!!!!<P> It is snowing like mad and the kids and I can sled ride on Friday.....<P> That the people at work have rallied together to take up the slack I have left them with this emotional and physical nightmare.<P> And that God will eventually bring clarity to everyone , it might take a while ...but he will provide clarity....<P> And I'm thankful that turkey is friggin good........<P>------------------<BR>Yesterday is history , tommorrows a mystery , and the present is a gift , thats why its a present

OK, I'm better,<P>I'm thankful my STBX is being reasonable and amicable about this.<P>I'm thankful for a job I love.<P>I'm thankful for a healthy happy son who loves me.<P>I'm thankful for all my toys and the ability to enjoy them.<P>And I'm especially thankful to all of you, who even though you're going through the roughest time in your life, you have taken the time send hugs and prayers and words of encouragement. You guys are the best <P>Now if someone could just do something for the Cowboys... <P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again<p>[This message has been edited by c00ker (edited November 21, 2000).]

Murph!!<P>You came out of the woodwork again!! <P>You guys are more than welcome to have dinner at my house!! <P>Just make sure you clean up before you leave and lock the house up! LOL (I won't be there! I'll be at my mom's and then I'm leaving town! )<P>Mitzi

I am happy for my health,<BR>my two great teens,<BR>my supportive friends and family,<BR>the hope of a good life,<BR>the pleasures of this life.<P>Last year my x had the kids and this year it is my turn, so I am very thinkful for that. Last year was really tough. <BR>