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After failing joint counseling, my x continued to go to the counselor by herself. That lasted about 5-6 visits till my insurance wouldn't cover it anymore and then she stopped. I think she got anti-deps from him though. I'm not sure if they help or not. <BR>She is still very self centered so I don't know if the counseling helped or not either. She did say that the counselor told her that our marriage was over, duh!.

Hi Trapped mom,<P>I am not a wayward spouse, but years ago, when we were 21, my ex H and I went to counseling together and it saved our relationship. At that point, we did fall back in love. I saw a change in him that I knew he worked on for many years.<P>Well we were supposed to go to counseling every so often, like a preventative maintanence thing, and we never did. <P>He had an affair and our marriage is now over. However, I don't know that just a counselor can make our WS's respectable, they have to want to do that on their own, which after a husband leaves his wife and kids for another woman, what can they really do to restore our faith?<P>In my case, not much. <P>You might try rewording the title of this to something along the lines of WS, did counseling help? Or something, maybe you'll find the answers you are looking for.<P>Good luck,<BR>Happy holidays,<BR>Dana<BR>

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