Sounds pretty New Agey, doesn't it?<BR>Actually, it's a lot more practical -- in this case. <BR> You see, last night I had the strangest dream (as the old song goes)... In it, my XH and I were in the house where we'd both lived and we were standing in the foyer. He was on his way to work. <BR>Problem was, he was wearing a dress!<BR>And I realized in the dream that the man before me was a confirmed CROSS DRESSER!<BR>No, not something I could handle, would want, would stick around to "work through. <BR>Uh-uh! Not in real life, not in the dream.<BR>Well, I asked him to go change clothes.<BR>He did, and came back in --- ANOTHER DRESS.<BR>This went on for a while with him changing but not changing(aha! lightbulb there, right?) and finally he comes out in a low cut black number (!!)<BR>and in the spot where he should be placing his, uh, bosom is a trough and it's full of donuts and muffins!!!!! : ) <BR>Goofy dream.<BR>However, I realized later that it spoke to me of my urging him to change (which he really would not, did not), of his kooky personality (which has not shifted an iota), and in putting him in this outlandish setting and situation, I was able to put more distance between us and all the pain and all but wake up LAUGHING.<BR>And I've continued to laugh about it over the last few days. It's been like another layer of scab and under it new tissue (yay!)over all of the pain of a divorce. And it sure has been helpful, especially as we approach this weekend which can be nothing but a big box of emotional dynamite...<BR>Anyway, hope I helped someone smile and maybe even laugh over this one. Maybe you, too, will eventually come to have a similar "out there but so helpful" dream. This really was a gift of healing and some insight for me and it really came from *inside* of me.<BR>This is good stuff!!!