I don't know if anyone can help me..I have been married to my husband for 11 yeas. He just recently told me that he doesnt love me and hasnt for a long time. But he also keeps telling me how he doesnt want to hurt me. We have 4 children together and I dont think we should just give up without trying. I know that I am partly at fault for the way he is feeling, but he has done many things in our marriage that have made it hard for me. I am wondering what I can do if anything to get him to at least try counseling. I know I cant make him do anything, but I think he is just giving up too easily. Thanks for any suggestions

Welcome <B>Inneedofhelp</B>...<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It is geared to "infidelity" issues...<BR>...but even if there is no infidelity...<BR>...it is useful!<P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>Plan A is a way of life...<BR>...not just a plan of action for marriages troubled with infidelities!<P>If you can't get your H to start counseling...<BR>...start on your own...<BR>I would recommend that you have a couple of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7200_phone.html" TARGET=_blank>telephone counseling sessions</A> (~$95US a pop... but well worth it) with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7010_about.html" TARGET=_blank>Steven W. Harley</A> or Jennifer Harley. Check out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counseling Center</A>... and for some specifics... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7015_fee.html" TARGET=_blank>Fees for Counseling Services</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7020_sched.html" TARGET=_blank>Scheduling an Appointment</A> (888-639-1639)!<P>He will in time know you're willing to do everthing possible to save your marriage...<BR>...and if his head clears a bit...<BR>...will come around to what is the <B>right</B> thing to do...<P>This requires patience...<BR>...and a lot of it!<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Inneedofhelp:<BR><B>I am wondering what I can do if anything to get him to at least try counseling.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Um, I know this is going to sound flippant (and I don't mean it that way), but...have you tried asking him?<BR>