I find this amazing. My XH left us a year ago. Last week, my 5-year old son didn't recognize his preschool teachers, so on a hunch I gently asked him if he remembers his dad living with us. He actually argued with me that dad never did. He has no memory of his dad living with him. I'm starting to realize that my youngest doesn't know what the connection is with him and his dad.<P>This is mostly because XH walked out and never contacts the kids or sees them, maybe once every 3 months, so what's that about 4 times a year? I think my youngest son sees him as the guy that comes around once in a while to take him to Walmart and buy him things - and little else! When dad left, he was only 4 with little memory potential because of his age. And yet, somehow I knew it would happen and told XH it would. It's his fault that he didn't keep a close relationship with them and now I think he's lost his relationship with his youngest son already. I just want to shake XH and slap him and tell him to WAKE up. He's throwing all the important things in life down the toilet!<P>Then XH also had the audacity to tell his mother that he's upset because the only thing the kids want from him is his money. Well, duh? That's what happens when the only quality time you spend with them is buying them things at Walmart. By the way, that's the exact same thing he said about me - guy must be paranoid.<P>Just had to vent - the stupidity is amazing.<P><P>------------------<BR>Kathy

Know what you mean, mine is on that path as well. They WILL wake up to what they are doing one day. Unfortunately, I think too much time and healing (on our parts) will have occurred by then.<P>Sorry about your son.