Hi Guys and Gals.<P>I've been lurking in the background for a while now and thought I would post an update on my situation.<P>The Big D isn't final yet but close. No mediation, just negoiation, All is complete except but to sign the papers. My lawyer called about 2 weeks ago to ask how things were going with same and I said good. I get the house and she get 80% of my retirement. Child support has been worked out, visitation worked out, everything. The lawyer said he didn't believe it. He asked if there was anypulling of finger nails, Spitting or cuseing. Nope, I said. So lets get on with it. So I went in witht he documetation and he took it all down and started to write up the final decree. When its complete I am to bring the STBXW in for signitures and then since its been over 60 days since I filed I could go to court anytime an opening in the courts would let mem in. then its over. And let me tell you I can't wait.<P>Yesterday afternoon the STBXW calls and says my daughter has a school play after school. I was abit upset that she waited to the last minute to call me about it but I was cool and said I would be there. I showed up and video'd the whole event. <P>The thought that kept running through my head was that my STBXW is one of the most indefferent, unemotional creatures I have ever met. Kinda like putting your hand in a bucket of luke warm water that is body temp. you don't even know your hand is in water. I just didn't want to be around her. Her indefference was absolutely deafining and at the same time amasing. <P>I'm not depressed, I'm not angry, I'm not on the roller coaster here, I'm not upset (much). Thinking about it this morning I belief what I feel is disappointment.<P>What a tramatic waste. <P>On another note. If you remember one of my old post about bad things happening after I see my lawyer. It happened again. The first time after we saw each other I got rear ended, the 2nd time I hit a Porche, this time I got a speeding ticket. I think I will have one of my buddies drop me off at court and then drive me home afterwards. <P>

I understand how you feel. My STBXH met me at my office the other day (he needed me to endorse a check) and I hadn't seen him for awhile. There I am unable to look him in the eyes because I am so filled with emotion, and there he is Mr. Stoic, matter of fact, no emotion, just totally not even touched or moved. In his mono tone voice-I hope you are doing well. <P>Excuse me, hello, remember me-The one who was with you through thick and thin, the one who'd go to the ends of the earth for you. I too am just amazed at how indifferent they can be.<P>I am left very upset and disappointed.<BR>You are correct when you say "what a tramatic waste".<BR>Hang in there<BR>and definately get a ride from one of your buddies to the court house!!!!!!!!<BR>Petrie- agoodwomaninCA <BR>

Happy your happy about your Big D. I take it your STBXW could not be considered as someone who wore their heart on their sleeve. I can't help but think that she needs a lot of help. How unfortunate to go through life not feeling, & what a "bill of goods to be sold" to think not feeling any pain is a worth while trade-off. Although I can't help but think it is something that like drugs & alcohol could be sold to many of the lost souls who never knew the hurt could hurt that much.<P>Kudos on the video move for your daughter - sounds like the perfect movie for the two of you to idle away the day or night in perfect harmony.<P>Echo, Echo, Echo on the buddy drop at court . . . <BR>My son very, very upset we can't get the Dallas Star playoffs with the Oilers up here in New York (big Hockey Fan - Mike Modano) - Oh the tragedy them 9 yr olds go through.<P>Good Luck, God Bless, Prayers to All,<P><P>------------------<BR>StarCrossed