I can't believe it. In ten days, I will no longer be married. Even though I have vented lately about him, I am deeply saddened by this impending date.<P>What should I do, should I just let the day pass? Even though we have been living separate lives for a few months now, he will actually no longer be married to me, no longer my husband. <P>It is a momentous day, albeit a sad one.<BR>Any suggestions.

Rejected,<P>I have no idea about your situation. But just reading those words make me cry. I know that it won't be long til I will have a similar post and that just isn't fair. MY MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT END. I don't know how I will be able to handle it. I guess I'll just lean on the compassionate people on this board, my family, and the Lord for support. I don't have any advice just know that there is someone in Kansas who is praying for you and hoping that whatever happens you will find love and happiness.<P>(((((((((HUG)))))))))))<P><BR>Love, Bill<P>------------------<BR>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-

Lost Husband,<BR>Thank you for your prayers and understanding.<BR>Petrie<BR>soon to lose one of her titles "wife"<BR>

((((((((((((Petrie))))))))))))<P>What to say? Can one ever prepare oneself for this? I have no words of advice as I am still in the filing stage of the game. Once filed for D come fast and swift here. <BR>I don't even know what I will do....hope you get some good advice.<P>

I feel your pain trust me. I just this minute got back from getting my Divorce Decree notorized. I dont know much about the divorce procedure. But im getting that is it. I think my wife has already be to court. I didnt contest anything and we have no kids or assests together. So I'm guessing i just have to wait for the final copy.<BR>I feel more numb than i ever have in my life.

((((((Petrie))))))<P>When I first got my divorce papers, I had NO clue when it would happen . Where I live, I had to go in and sign, then wait 4-6 weeks, which is even worse than knowing that "date". Anyway, when I first got them, I was numb. To be honest, I had just gotten into an intense relationship and it was hard to let this effect hit me as hard as it would have, but I still cried on bf's shoulder and was very sad.<P>Recently, my ex got engaged, and again, this is no surprise, but I was disappointed. Tonite, I am going out with a girlfriend who dates my bf's brother, and her ex is getting remarried, and SHE is down. So what I'm saying is, even more than a few years later for her, she is still down.<P>I expect that I will feel funny also when my ex gets married. <P>If you know the date of the divorce to go thru, surround yourself with friends and family and don't spend it alone. <P>Being alone when you are sad is the worst.<P>Hugs, Dana<BR>

I will surround myself with family and friends, doing something to lift my low low spirits. I will try not to think about what my husband will be doing-as he might be celebrating. Now that is depressing!<P>No matter what kind of fog he is in and no matter how cruel he has been------he's got to have a heart and the memories we've shared. SO SO many memories, okay I must stop now because I am crying.<P>I am and will be in mourning<P>

{{{{{{{{Petrie}}}}}}}}<P>I heart and prayers go out to you. I will be dreading the day that my divorce is final. Even though I am coping with the loss of my marriage, it is not easy to turn off feelings for someone that you have loved unconditionally for so long. Stay strong. You will make it through this.<P>Griz

I wish I knew the answer, because I'm asking myself the same question. I look in the mirror and can't believe it's happening to me. That I am facing raising my kids by myself. <P>It's depressing. But we just have to realize, however hard it may be, that trying times, they make us stronger. And God doesn't put anymore on us than we are able to bear.<P>I consider myself lucky if I can just make it through one day, sometimes even just one hour.<P>Pray for me, I'll pray for you.

Rejected - we are on almost parallel paths...I just got this email from my stbx today...<P>"Now that the judge has ruled: Is there any reason we cannot be in court this friday?"<P>He seems to be in quite a rush...<P>((((((((((rejected)))))))))))))<P>This too shall pass...this too shall pass....this too shall pass.<P>Lisa