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My spouse and I separated on 3-12-01 after I found out he was online on a dating service dating women.<P>We had contact via email and a few visits the first two weeks, now he is ignoring me. He sent me a letter two weeks ago stating he "doesn't love me" and that he never did and that it was premature for him to marry me.<P>No papers for divorce (PTL) have been sent yet. I am standing for my marriage despite others suggestions (Christians and not).<P>But what's up with the IGNORING THING?<P>Any help would be appreciated!
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GUILTY party... you're reminding him of his irresponsibility and he can't face that. Takes the fun out of his life.<P>------------------<BR>We cannot do everything at once... but we can do something at once
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Thanks for writing. I know he's guilty. Also, just got served divorce papers. I don't want a divorce, I want to stand.<P>Advice?
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Get a good attorney.<BR>Are you in a no fault divorce state? I am. I don't want the divorce, but there's nothing I can do to stop it.<P>You may be able to get the court to require marital counselling.<P>~Amy
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I'm not sure what the law says but the papers say that I can file that "this marriage can be reconciled" and not sign the papers. I think in California it has to be signed by both people. Thanks!
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<B>I am standing for my marriage</B><BR>Good for you! Don’t let others wear you down. Let them know it’s your life & you are gonna do what you <B>need</B> to do!<P><B>But what's up with the IGNORING THING?</B><BR>Most likely he is “enjoying” his new found freedom. At least for a while.<P>Was the separation agreed on by both of you, did you kick him out or did he leave?<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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Hey Chris thanks for writing.<P>I asked him to leave after I found out that he was cheating on me. It was "agreed" upon though because when he found out I knew, he wanted to leave. Since then he has been saying there is "no love" and "he never loved me" and "God is telling him to get a divorce". Yikes, the lies that satan tells. Write again at findandkeep@yahoo.com
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That ignoring thing--I think he's sleeping with someone else. I could be wrong, but I've been through my husband's myriad affairs, including ones on the Internet--with other MEN. Just two weeks ago I was vilified in a spate of hate email from his work. He says he cannot stand to talk to me on the phone or in person, hence the letters and e's. He also lost weight, got new clothes, and is sporting a buff tan--real clues to the affair.<P>Nelle
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