Hi,<P>It's been almost three weeks since my h told me he was filing for divorce. How does this work? I haven't received anything from him or in the mail.<P>Thanks

I think you should have gotten something by now. Even with a court as clogged with divorce as Los Angeles, it did not take my stbx this long to get papers.<P>Maybe there is hope?

Grandpabri,<P>Thanks for the reply. I spoke to h last night and asked him directly. Took major courage. He hasn't followed through yet which is typical. <P>At this point there isn't any hope for reconciliation until he comes out of the fog and realizes that relationship with ow will never work and he will lose everything that matters to him just to be with her.<P>Hoping

My H made lots of threats about filing ~ never followed through. That he hasn't is a good sign for you <P>------------------<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>

When my H filed against me it only took 4 days for me to receive the paperwork. It was sent certified so I had to go pick it up from the post office. The shocker was reading that he was sueing me for cruelty and neglatent of duties-I know its standard but still...he left me for OW and had the affair-while I started up in counseling and started to improve myself.....I finally had to push the paperwork since H started it and did not follow thru-it all is ended up costing me more than it is him-of course his mom works for his lawyer!!!They cut him a deal-how sweet!!!<BR>If you don't want the marriage to end please hold the paperwork up unless it ends up costing too much emotional and financially. I set a time limit. If H wasn't coming back than he would probably not come back at all-he is a "taking a stand and will go thru with this no matter how he feels" (his direct quote!!!!) Blessing to you!!!