Starting 2.5 years ago my husband started a string of EAs that were the demise of our marriage.<P>He left 2 weeks ago to spend time with OW #1 to see if they had a relationship to work on. At the time of this affair she was the only OW.<P>Now though he has been involved with 5 other women and still calls three regularly plus OW#1. He called 2 of them the day he left for his trip to Norway to see OW#1. He took his laptop so I'm sure he e-mails the others.<P>All these women he refers to as just friends he talks and visits with to try and figure out what he wants. I know this is fog speak and he is really playing the field.<P>Can anyone offer an opinion as to what would drive a man to need so many women in his life? Is this the way to find happiness that has been eluding him ever since his children were born? (he mentioned at one time that he never felt the same for me after the kids were born and when youngest was 9 months old was when #1A happened.<P>Just thought I'd ask.<P>Thanks.<P><BR>

<p>[ May 30, 2002: Message edited by: cantletgo ]</p>

Let me preface any comment by saying, as you know, my head is really screwed up today and I can't be held responsible for anything I say.<P>It appears to me that this is a very selfish and self-serving man. Everything started when your attention was diverted from him to the children. Could it be that he needs to be the center of someone's attention and as soon as the polish starts to wear off he goes and finds another?<P>Just a thought.<P>Thanks for the day, I really needed it.<P><P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-

CLG,<P>I know, I should not even be concerned with his actions but my analytical scientific brain has a hard time letting go until I have some type of answer. Just my nature.<P>Kids and I do have plans for tomorrow. No big deals, either sitting in the desert with 3 or 4 other families and watching fireworks or we have also been invited over to a friends house to watch whatever fireworks can be seen from their backyard. <P>The kids and I are also getting ready to leave to go home to Nebraska for a month. The time away will be good. <P>When I get back I will be gearing up to start my new career path.<P>Got my fingers crossed for you regarding the job.<P>Glad to hear from you CLG. Hang in there.<P>Take Care

Bill,<P>Yes you are right. He loves attention. The man is running from himself so fast right now. I wonder how long he can keep up the pace?<P>Somedays I just feel the need to hear some justification for what I already know in my heart.<P>Thanks, and take care of yourself.<P><p>[This message has been edited by HopelessinAZ (edited July 03, 2001).]