Oh my!<P>Yesterday was my "day at the spa" and OH....MY.....WORD!!!!<P>If everyone going thru or been thru the big "D" would breakdown, spend a couple hundred dollars, and give themselves a treat of SPA THERAPY?? I'm telling you- they could probably elminate this section of MB.com!!! altogether!!!<P>I walked around half naked all day, had the most sensual massage I've ever had (I about jumped the guy right there on the table- discovered having my fingertips massaged can be a REAL turn on ), I had a facial, a pedicure, manicure, haircut, conditioning treatment, waxing, THE WHOLE NINE YARDS BABY!!!<P>It was the most glorious afternoon I've had in my pitiful stressed out life in ten years! No kids, No work, No phones, No STBX irritating me- nothing- nada- peace and quiet and lemonade!!!<P>Seriously- I would totally recommend AT LEAST a professional massage for all of you doing thru or been thru this stressful situation! There were even like- 3 MEN there!!! (hahaha- None of them having their backs waxed either- chickens!)<P>I'm still floating around- and I tell you what! It made me realize (waiting_for_her) - that if I have to go the next 10 years of my life with no sex- I could PROBABLY manage with a once a month massage (fingertips included) and a vibrator shortly after!!! hehehehehe!!! YUMMY!!! I'm beginning to think that everyone should own a massage therapist!!! ("Oh Johnny- come here please- I need this rubbed RIGHT about HERE") <P>Just wanted to make my recommendation!<P>Treat yourselves to this- YOU WON'T BE SORRY!!!<P>LOL<BR>TLFM

Oh, I can totally relate. My best friend gave me a gift certificate for Valentines Day this year for a one hour massage... she thought I might need to be touched by a man - since it had been a while. I was so thrilled... but he was gay. Oh well. The massage was incredible... just lacked the fantasy. <P>Anyway, I had a teaching assignment in June in Bangkok... okay, if you ever get the chance... Thailand is massage heaven. EVERY SINGLE NIGHT I walked across the street to the 5th largest shopping mall in the world, and had some part of my body massaged... feet and lower legs, facial, manicure/pedicure, full body massage with a seaweed mask... it was UNBELIEVABLE! And the cost was obscenely low... as you can imagine. Though, on my second foot massage, my Aunt (who was traveling with me) and I about died... these little Thai women could muscle our feet and legs down where we were nearly crying in pain... it felt great about 5 min afterwards not during. Anyway, I'm with you on the physical touch therapy! It truly does wonders! In the U.S. though, it's a rare treat, due to the expense of it, at least on MY budget!<P>------------------<BR><I>As iron sharpens iron, so does one wo/man sharpen another...</I> Prov 27:17

I wish I could afford one..I went to a massuase a few years back..and would LOVE to go again..didn't do the full body one though...maybe next time...Hmmm...I was told one of the men I graduated H/S with does that for a living..I may have<BR>to give him a call...

hmmm, I'm seeing a new career opportunity on my horizon...<P><popping knuckles>.... "next?..."<P> <P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain <BR>and makes the sun come out again

Nick- <BR>You are too funny!! You wanna be my massage therapist slave boy??? <P>I've been so horny since yesterday I'm going nuts!!!<BR>I need to go back to that place and sue them for cruel and unusual PUNISHMENT!!!<P>What's a poor girl like me to do?? Goodness!<BR>TLFM

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I've been so horny since yesterday I'm going nuts!!!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>uh hum... only since yesterday? Not when I search your threads! <P>Well, I can relate... especially some times of the month more than others... abstinance is bunk! I agree with someone over on EN board, going without not by choice except by mates (I know, POJA) has got to be some form of sexual abuse...<P>Ok, well, I'm going to look up that Valentine's Day guy again... even HIS hands will do the touch.<P>Well, Nick... you were talking about mulching your garden a while back... I suppose you have strong and yet... tender hands, no? <P>No, no, NO, I do not want to go there... not now! <P>Ciao!<P>------------------<BR><I>As iron sharpens iron, so does one wo/man sharpen another...</I> Prov 27:17

OvrCs-<BR>hehehe- you caught me!!! You are right- I've been a bit horny for much longer than since yesterday!!! hahaha<P>My natural need for a little "activity" was just made SO MUCH WORSE from that visit to the spa!!<P>hehehe- and I thought I was going there to RELAX I didn't know I was going to come away from there so, ummm, what's the word for it??? READY??? (ready willing and able!)<P>ha- I'm tempted to go door to door til I find some college kid needing an education! LOL Guess I'll have to settle for a little candles, music and "self satisfaction" <P>Someone on one of my other threads said that divorced women have a reputation for being easy- HAHAHAHA- go figure!!<BR>Too many more trips to my massage man- and I might be making that statement TRUE!!! <P>HELP ME!!! Auughh!<BR>TLFM<P>

I began massage as way to reduce my stress level and have kept it up!! My insurance pays for 1500.00 per year for massage, with a 20.00 co pay, so I just pack a luch for a week or two and make an appointment!!<P>We so seldom do something just for us.....I can't say I find it erotic, but I certainly come out of there ready for my new beloved!!<P>------------------<BR>Susan

TLFM, you say <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>ha- I'm tempted to go door to door til I find some college kid needing an education! LOL Guess I'll have to settle for a little candles, music and "self satisfaction" <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Girl, you tell me about it! Oh, one time my Aunt and I went out to a local restaurant/pub for a night cap and I was lingering around the front waiting for her... I then started into the bar area - full of college students, and the bouncer who was there didn't see me pass until I was past him. He said (to my back), "Mmmm, I'm going to need to see your ID." I was shocked and then turned around... <to the moment of truth>. The bouncer took one look at me and said, "Oh God no, go ahead..." I'm glad it was so funny or I would of cried! Anyway, I'm only 34 mind you. I know that's not 21 but geezh, "Oh GOD NO!" <P>Oh, and I remember someone Gnome or JL or someone saying this on your other thread, <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Someone on one of my other threads said that divorced women have a reputation for being easy- HAHAHAHA- go figure!!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> That was a shocker for me! I really had to pay attention to the signals I was giving out as that's the last thing I wanted someone to think about me, "Aaah, another divorced or soon-to-be divorced woman in her 30's who's ready to rollllll!" Yuck. So, I was glad someone posted that warning cuz I was definitely feeling vulnerable to that...<P>Ok, <B>Sue</B> which insurance plan are YOU on! I am going to HAVE to check out my policy 'cuz that would be GREAT!<P>Ciao all... <BR>Nicole<BR><P>------------------<BR><I>As iron sharpens iron, so does one wo/man sharpen another...</I> Prov 27:17

uh oh...<P>On a more serious note, I never realized how much a massage could help me recover from injuries. When I've aggravated a hamstring, ITB or put a few too many miles on my bike, I've found a good massage therapy session really helps me get back training faster. <P>Of course, having someone grind my quads for a half hour has yet to make me horny... <P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain <BR>and makes the sun come out again

That's the thing about this massage I had- he was so GENTLE and SENSUAL!!! (no grinding- hahaha- not that in some ways, that wouldn't have been bad, but....) <P>It was all so relaxing, the massage was definitely my favorite thing- but probably because I'm always so damn horny! The facial felt wonderful, pedicure made me feel like I was walking on air (except during- that chick was grinding my CALVES so hard- I was like "honey- PLEASE STOP") and I felt so good because another customer said to me..."You look absolutely RADIANT!! You look so beautiful and refreshed!!!" (And one of the stylists told me I looked like I should be the one doing hair and nails..)<P>Those compliments, from complete strangers, combined with my erotic massage (which I'm sure the guy didn't mean for it to be- ha!)- they made my whole MONTH!!!<P>Bit by bit the stress of these horrible past 10 years, and especially the last 4 months, just kept slipping away!!! It was nice to have some quiet relaxing time to re-group, get focused, and to actually DO SOMETHING FOR ME!!! It's like I know my problems aren't gone- but I'm feeling much more able to proceed ya know?<P>It is amazing- and definitely not the last time I do it- even if I have to scrape and save $5/week for a bit to afford it again!! (Damn I should have been born rich! LOL)<P>And what's the matter Nick- you didn't answer me? You SAID you wanted to start a new occupation- the title of "Personal Massage Slave for TLFM" doesn't appeal to you? hehehe LOL (It pays well :P )<P>Have a great day! (Hopefully mine won't be quite as ahh, sexual FRUSTRATING!)<BR>TLFM

Just READING about this made my day!! Boy, a massage... it's been a long time... I wish!!<P>Love this thread... living vicariously through you, okay?<P>Nick, you **crack me up!**<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>And we know. We who have seen. ~Pellegrino

Okay, TLFM...I was going to pass on this thread, since you wemenz are being so...well, honest. <B>But</B>, you did single me out up there. First of all, and here is one of the truly sad parts...I am not waiting for sex from her...got that (romance novel type for both of us) back in March, three days before the bomb dropped. I did go a year, however, and a couple of several...difficult (think of the proper synonym here...get your thesaurus if necessary!) months, as well. Plus, I used to work on a ship, and was gone 6-8 months at a time...so waiting is familiar to me...sexual waiting, that is. Funny thing...two days before the bomb, I gave her a nice back rub, which she enjoyed, but slept through...no groping...just that gentle sort of massaging. Well, I have <B>never</B> had a massage, unless you count that time in Yokohama, but that turned out to be a sexual request from a mostly toothless man...lots of therapy dollars there, too bad I can't afford it!<P>I understand the theraputic nature of that, and also, the sexual tension is a result of how the physical [non-sexual] touches/pampering [without any expectation] services your Taker. You see, your Giver has been in high gear for a <I>long</I> time, hence your frustration [sexual, and otherwise]...that is why we butted heads before. My Giver is out of gas, too, but there is no <I>relief</I> in sight...another reason why I avoided this thread. The <B>main</B> reason however, is that I can't afford glasses, so that's out, and since I have been through these little [?] periods of celibacy before, it is easier for me to wait. Besides, you have been 'beaten' into this position, and that simply ain't right.<P>College boys, huh? Sounds like a deal to me! I think you need to watch 'The Ladies Man'...maybe he can answer your 'romantic queries'<BR><B>Mrs. Robinson, are you trying to seduce me?</B><BR>Seriously, watch the movie....LOL, trust me!<P>I am flabergasted...my insurance [that I no longer have] would not pay for counseling, or therapy, and yet there is health insurance out there that will pay 1500 perannum for massage...sheesh, I couldn't even get a chiropractor paid for!<P>Okay, ladies...and gent...I gotta go...no, really.

I just started trying to have them regularly, massages that is. I'm shooting for a half-hour at least once a month. So much of what I've heard in places like Alanon and CoDA (and here) say 'do something for yourself, just for you' so this is a good something. I've spent most of my life being so worried about everybody else, I've finally come to the point that it's my turn now.<P>And massage is not just an indulgence, like a pedicure or a manicure. There are real therapeutic benefits to a good massage. It gets things moving that need to be moving (blood flow, lymphatic system) that might be all blocked up because of stress or lifestyle or whatever you might be doing that is hurting your physical body in ways that you don't realize. I usually feel so wonderful afterwards that makes me realize just how stressed I was beforehand, kinda like you don't know how much you needed it until you get it, and then you can't believe you went that long without it (okay, I guess it's like sex in a way). Personally I've never found it to be a sexually stimulating thing, but then all of my massage therapists have been women. <P>In the modern world, and especially in America I think, we spend so much time chasing the almighty dollar and so little time on really living the good life and being good and kind to our minds and our bodies. I think your point is well taken TLFM, that a spa day is good for people going through tough times. But I think it might also be a good preventive measure too; maybe if people were a little more happier within themselves and less stressed by the outside world, there would be less affairs, less divorces, less acrimony in the world. So everybody, be especially good to yourself today, and do something just for you (because nobody else will). <P>P.S. My H and I attended a couples massage workshop once. He had never had one and I thought it would be a good introduction and also maybe get us in the habit. He enjoyed the workshop but we never did give eachother massages afterwards. Oh well.<BR>

Quick... someone.... give me the number of that massage thereapist!!!! HUUURRRRRRYYYYYYY!!!!! <P>God, that sounds so wonderful... while I was reading this post, I could feel all the little spots of tension and the creaks and growns of my muscles. They are begging for a nice massage... <P>Hey Nick, it's only about a 4-5 hour flight (commercial) to get here... and if ya swipe one of those noisey jets, you could probably be here right after lunch .. LOL.<P>Has anyone tired a mud bath? I just worry about getting mud in my... belly button. But it can't be much worse than the sand from the beach, can it?<P>I do indulge myself every two weeks by getting my nails done, and every 2-3 months for my toes. But now I've got to try one of those massages... <P>**SIGH**<BR>Dawnetta

One of the good things about living in Nashville is that you can get almost anything you can think of. You can go to beauty schools for manicures, pedicures, facials, and I think massages. You can also get massages from the massage therapy schools. And the costs are much lower. The environment may not be as plush though.

Oh, yeah... it's very healthy for you. <P>When I lived in E. Europe... I went through a program of acupuncture and a 20 min massage every day for 3 weeks. It was for weight loss - or what they call cellulite redistribution... I know that sounds disgusting. But, I am about 10-15 above my pre-pregancy weight and I wanted to give it the extra boost. It really seemed to work!!! Plus I got this really AWESOME French product that you put on your "problem" areas and it really tightens things up or smoothes things out, whatever the case may be! It's truly amazing! And the beauty of it is, is that it's so cheap! I would get a message and acupuncture session for about $3 each day! The French oils were a little more expensive - especially by local standards... but you probably could get this stuff in NYC and it would be $50 a vial. So, I bought heaps of it when I left there, naturally.<P>Of course the benefits are better if you are exercising and eating well also. So, even my H when he saw me after a 2 week separation said, "Wow, you look good." Which was a LOT coming from him... <P>Anyway, the guys who do massage over there are usually visually impaired or blind - like coke glasses and all. But, man can they touch in such a way that really is unbelievable. They really know their muscle groups! I started doing that right after D-day with my H and man was it every therapeutic! I so miss it.<P>Cheers!<P>ps - WFH - Mrs. Robinson? I can totally relate to her - though could never do such a thing... I don't think!<P><P>------------------<BR><I>As iron sharpens iron, so does one wo/man sharpen another...</I> Prov 27:17

I'm exhausted and I need another MASSAGE!!!!! (WHINE WHINE WHINE!)<P>I'm going to pass out I need one so bad!!<P>hahaha- Gotta have my "fix" LOL<P>I'm telling you Nick- you should be here right now!<BR> <BR>TLFM

Sheesh...I go run a training for a few days and what happens???My shirtless, bike short wearing yardboy/mulch guy starts a massage therapy business on the side...and by the looks of this thread it will be taking up a lot of his time (ladies, don't forget to take a number...and quit that fighting in the back of the line)...<P>Jeez, now where am I going to find a mulch man on short notice? I was just about to get that bark delivered...with my luck I'll end up having to take care of the flower beds myself...probably have a million sore muscles...hey, wait a sec...that gives me an idea...OH NICK!!!!!<P> <P>Lisa<P>------------------<BR>I am woman...hear me roar...okay - meow...okay - purr? Hey, I'm working on it.

Hey Lisa- <P>I was thinking, it might be possible that there are a LOT of men out there willing to give some sensual massages if they thought about what they might get as payment for services rendered! hehehehehe- good hands and a sturdy massage table required!!!!<P>That way Nick can be yours, and we can all find our own shirtless wonder mulch boy for a little "spa therapy"!!! hehehe I might even find one willing to join me here in Tampa for a little "spa therapy on the BEACH" <P>My STBX stopped in today and apparently I was looking a little thoughtful, he asked what was on my mind and I said "well, it starts with an S and has three letters" <P>When he said "sex" I said- well- "spa, sex, spa, sex, spa, sex- TAKE YOUR PICK" hehehehe I've got a serious mental situation going on here I think!!<P>LOL to you- and hey- "massage boy sex slaves"- everyone should have one don't ya think? <P>TLFM