Is it wrong to want to stay in contact and still be friends with the XW friends? I don't know whether to call them and say hi or what. I still like them but I don't want to put them into an awkward situation, where they might feel that they will have to choose sides. I would not discuss any problems that I have had or am having with the XW, but just to have someone to talk to once in awhile. What are anyones thoughts about this situation.

OAS,<P> I understand what it is like. I am talking to friends of my W. I try to tell them how the kids and I are. I try not to bother them with my problems. What I would suggest is if they were good friends with you then I would call to say hello. <P>Indy

OAS,<P> I understand what it is like. I am talking to friends of my W. I try to tell them how the kids and I are. I try not to bother them with my problems. What I would suggest is if they were good friends with you then I would call to say hello. <P>Indy

Orlando,<P>First, I want to congratulate on what seems to be a calm, level-headed approach to this fiery trial you are undergoing. "Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth." (Matthew 5:5)<P>I would take caution when deciding to call one of her friend's. After my wife left me, I felt all alone one day and contacted her best friend to talk. It blew up in my face, to say the least, even though my intentions were good.<BR>However, if you feel there is a reasonable comfort level and there will be no backlash from your wife, than go for it. The key here appears to be your wife. Would she see you contacting her friends as an attempt at something? Furthermore, if you do get together with her friends, absolutely DO NOT talk about your wife. This situation (and I am speaking from experience) is a potentially damaging one to your future relationship with your wife, and you know it can result in warring through words, even if you did not intend or start it.<P>This battle is fought in the spiritual realm. That is where it will be won or lost. For myself, the journey has been difficult and I grow weary at times. The LORD has place a problem before me that I couldn't solve. I have been crying out to Him ever since. He has been faithful throughout. We must never give in to the discouragement we face. This tribulation produces perserverence, then character, then hope, and hope doesn't disappoint (Romans 5:3-5)<P>If there is one common thread at this site, it is that you are not alone. We are here for you.<P>God bless and my prayers are with you.<P>---------------------------------------<BR>The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; A broken and contrite heart, O God, Thou wilt not despise. (Psalms 51:17)