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I am not sure how I feel about this. I found out yesterday and I was indifferent most of the day. This morning I am not ok.

I found out from a friend of his, and was shocked when I heard of it; apparently he proposed within the month and the wedding is planned for early August.

I just talked to my ex for the first time in months this morning about financial issues, and did not share this news with me at first. I brought the topic around to marriage, and he finally told me.

I consoled myself yesterday in the belief that he was marrying her so suddenly because she was pregnant. Nothing else made sense. I found out today that she is not. It took the wind out of me. He WANTS to marry her. That is a sickening thought.

He left last June and our divorce was final in November. He moved in with her out of state in November as she started her first year of college. He had an EA with her; denies ever having a PA, but you never know.

A few months ago, he was calling me and telling me how sorry he was and what a fool he had been. We had a connection, he said, and he didn't work hard enough to try to save things. I guess now he is willing to make a committment that he was not willing to make to me. I was a woman and she was a little girl, he had said. Who marries little girls? Little boys????

I know the statistics and the odds, and they make me laugh. I know I should focus on me instead. These are little consolation when I feel so discarded. I wish I could just stop crying and thinking about it all--the divorce, the wedding, the promises, the six years of waste this morning.


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(((((GSD)))))

I am so sorry! It has got to be hard. You have just told the story of my greatest fear. My stomach did a flip as I was reading your story. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Hang in there!

Tina


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I am very sorry you are feeling so bad about this. Look at the bright side, when this marriage fails, you can look back and laugh. Sounds to me like he is not willing to grow up. You don't really need that in your life, do you?

My prayers and thougths are with you as well.

Michelle


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I am so sorry. I only saw this post today. I hope that you are feeling a little better now. I just want you to remember one thing and that this is more about him than it is about you. He may not be able to on his own. Not independent enough. I don't think that he could have worked through his 'issues' and he is going to put that all into the new marriage and that is not a good foundation to work on. Remember that you are a great person and he has lost someone really special. And he knows that - he has admitted it. Take good care of you friend.

Pantha



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