Well in three hours of mediation we basically agreed that we weren't going to agree on the custody issue. We did agree on parenting plans for if I get primary custody vs if she gets primary custody. We agreed on holidays, taxes, and phone calls but that's it.<P>So the saga shall play out in a court room Aug 14th to decide where the kids shall attend school. Then on Sep 11th our hearing for custody shall be heard. They may try to put these hearing together but since that makes logical sense, I'm sure that they won't.<P>Anyway, I'm very relieved that it's over. Obviously I wish that her head would of peeked down through the fog just long enough to REALLY consider what's best for the girls and not just herself.<P>Thanks to all for the support and I'm sure I'll be back for more.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEWWWW.....stop dripping that blood all over the board Bill! Yuck!<P>:P<P>Seriously, I'm glad you survived!<P>(((hugs)))<P>------------------<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>

ongratulations Bill, on getting through another hurdle. I believe a lot of us have been thinking of you all day and wishing you well. How were YOU?<P>Jacky

LostHusband,<P>I AM SO THANKFUL I HAVEN'T HAD TO GO THROUGH THAT!!!! I'm counting my blessings in this moment.<P>Why do people let the best interests of their children take second to their own selfish needs?<P>Keep the faith. It will work out somehow. Keep loving your children, ok.<P>hopefulheart

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Nina too:<BR><B>How were YOU?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I carried myself pretty good. It was extremely difficult at times to listen to an outright lie and not just blow up. I kept my composure, stated my facts/opinions, and stuck to my guns. Lisa made a last minute offer to give me part of what I wanted if I would just agree that she would have primary. I rejected it, nicely, ended up still getting her part of the offer without having to agree. <P>Now the scary part begins:<P>A. Put all this infront of a conservative Kansas judge<BR>B. PAY FOR THE LAWYER - OUCH<P><P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-

Bill,<BR> That actually sounds encouraging, you were able to go through that narrow gate...keep it up!<P>Do you think that the judge will ask your girls what they want? I still think that the fact that you live in the area where they grew up is a big factor, and what with your X's work situation, it all looks pretty good for you.<P>Paying the lawyer...well, that's another matter entirely...ouch is right. I got an $800 retainer figure for bankruptcy....are they insane? -Mike<p>[This message has been edited by waiting_for_her (edited July 25, 2001).]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by waiting_for_her:<BR><B>Do you think that the judge will ask your girls what they want? I still think that the fact that you live in the area where they grew up is a big factor, and what with your X's work situation, it all looks pretty good for you.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>The judge more than likely will not ask the girls. Around here they wait until they're around 13 before they starting bringing them into court. Though my girls would all say without hesitation that they want to go to school in my town, that is not something that I want them to have to do.<P>Everything does look pretty encouraging, though I'm prepared to loose the next battle in our court system, I'm quite sure that when the war is over, staying on the high ground, will lead me to victory. More importantly, it will lead my girls to victory and a better life.<P><P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-