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Okay, I have been noticing that a LOT of relationships here have been about the same as mine (17 years) and we all know what else we have in common!!!<P>So I would like to take a poll on how long your total relationship was...from dating through marriage. Another common number is 10 years....<P>Anyone like to respond?<P>I intend to collate this! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<P>Thanks,<P>Jacky<p>[ October 12, 2001: Message edited by: Nina too ]
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Nina<P>I have been married 7 years and been with H for 9 years. Ironically it started in about October and ends in October. Another stat you can use is how many children during that time. I obviously don't have children. And age difference is 1 year with him being older.
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We were together 17 years, married 12.<P>We were bogh born in 1966 and we have two children, 10 and almost 6(in 3 weeks).<P>Good poll, I'm interested in the results too.<BR>Lynn
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Oh I'm taking the cake! Dated for 5 years married until she got the 7 MONTH itch.
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Oh and to match Pantha our relationship started on August 12th and I found her with OM on Aug. 12th!
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Officially Married 12 years, 1 month, 13 days, & 20 hours but who's counting. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] <P>We only dated about 3 months before we found out we were haveing a baby. The interesting thing is that our first date was actually a year earlier. We went out together on a blind double date. After the date I called the other woman and ended up going out with her for like 10 months. My X called the other man and went out with him for like a week.<P>We were married when I was 18 & idiot girl was 16. I know have three AWESOME daughters Jessica (just turned 12), Mykiala (I blame her for my grey hairs 9), and my baby Corissa (6).
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Dated for 1 year<P>Engaged for 2 years<P>Got pregnant with first baby for 12th anniversary<P>Had the second baby for 15th anniversary<P>He filed for divorce for 17th anniversary<P>He had petition dismissed for 18th anniversary<P>(Boy, he knows how to do it big for those anniversaries. Wonder what he does for wife #2?)<P>So, we were together for 3 years before we married. We lived together within the marriage for 17 years and it took more than 3 years to get divorced so we were married for 20 years. And I <B>[I]DO NOT[I]</B> want him back.
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dated 10 mths<BR>married before A 18 1/2 yrs<BR>2 1/2 yrs since start of A <BR>in the process of Divorcing<BR>total 22 yrs this month<BR>what a waste [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]
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Well, we met on May 1, 1997, first kiss on Christmas eve (Dec. 24, 1997) married on Dec. 19, 1998. Separated (not legally) May 19, 2001. Still married.<P>It has been the most intense 3 years of my life - most difficult - most rewarding - most painful.<P>-AD
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Met in 9/85<BR>Married 4/86<BR>Baby born 8/88<BR>Almost divorced over his A in 1998; he admitted it was mistake; reconciled.<BR>In 1999, moved to NC for a new job for him; his career hit skids, got fired 3 times in 21 months.<BR>He began EA with MW at third job; both fired.<BR>Lied to me about EA; said I was crazy and imagining things. Went to counselor (last Spring); thought marriage was coming around.<BR>8/01 he gets new job and OW reappears.<BR>9/01 find out he's paying some of her bills and swears they are in love "like he's never loved anyone before"<BR>So, 16 years later, we're going to the counselor this afternoon where I'm fairly certain he is going to tell me he definitely wants a divorce and has no intention of continuing with the therapist, even tho we owe it to our daughter to learn how to get along enough to share in her upbringing.
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first dated in fall 1982,<BR>married in Julyof 1985,<BR>lived together for two years before marriage.<BR>separated July 2000,<BR>divorced September 2001<P>married 15 years, together about 18 years.<P>two children 12 and 9<P>marriage length has nothing to do with it,<BR>the fog has to do with learned coping abilities when entering midlife, and the learned responses to midlife from her family of origin (EA/PA!)<P> [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <P>One of these days, plan LB will tell her what I really think of her.<P>wiftty
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We were married June 10, 1995 we met April 24,1994. We bought our first house July 21 2001 he cheated on me August 4 2001. We have 2 boys. 2 and 4 and we are moving the divorce along so fast it may be over in less than a month. I am in total shock still. He wants the divorce I wanted to work on it but I think I am done giving now.
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Together 18 years married for 16 years, 10/27 is my 16th Anniv. First EA detected on 5 years ago and made up. This time I don't have a clue at best a year ago at worst 5 years ago
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by redhat:<BR><STRONG>Together 18 years married for 16 years, 10/27 is my 16th Anniv </STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>correction ... 10/15 ... sigh
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Interesting topic you've started. We've been together 13 years, married for 10. There are a lot of similar time periods in this thread aren't there?<P>Hope you're doing well. I've been thinking of you!<P>K
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I like to join in on these things too... and this is my ex-marriage:<P>Met on a blind date, married six WEEKS later, he had 3 affairs in year seven (itch?) I had an affair 13 years later (MLC?) and he had a couple more affairs to pay me back.<P>From beginning to end - 20 years.
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I have noticed the same thing. It appears that most relationship that are failing are in the double digits. I lived with my H for 5 years, dated 4 years(high school sweetheart) previous to that and have been married for 17 years...a GRAND total of 26 years. Even though we are not divorced or have filed, I can identify with alot of the painful postings that I see on this web site, for myself and my H's point of view as well. We are both in the withdrawn stage. Only time will tell.
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Hmmmm...first date-Feb. 1986 (I was 16, he was 18) Married July of 1989. First baby Oct. 1989, second baby May of 1992, third baby March of 1997. His A started in fall of 1999. He left December 23, 1999. Divorced November 2000. So a total of 11 years married, 3 1/2 years dating! All of this by the time I was 31!! YIKES!!<P>Mitzi [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]
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I win!<P>Met Fall 77, Started dating Feb 79 got married Jan 80.<P>She left Feb 99. Divorce in progress (my doing)<BR>Married 22 years this coming January.
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We were married 19 years with six kids when his affair began in 9/98. We had been together 24 years at the time, since meeting in 1974.
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