I didn't want to steal your wife's thread. You said this.<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by sad_n_lonely:
<strong>Not to worry kat, I do not do chat. And I agree with all the advice given thinker, I'd proabably give her the same advice myself. Makes no difference (legal advice), I am obligated to take care of her needs rest of her life anyways, nor will I contest anything (if it comes to that), I won't have a lawyer, and I will sign whatever she thinks is fair. I will leave with the clothes on my back if that is what she desires. Of course, I would probably wonder why she did that (not that I think she would). Nor will I refute anything said here, we agreed not to read each others posts (but reading others responses is ok I guess, if not I am sure she will tell me). Maybe she is indeed better off without me.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Sad N' Lonely,<p>I think you guys should read each others post. I think you guys need to. I also think you would like to believe she'd be better off without you, just so you can feel better that you weren't the one who divorced, she was. You are pushing her day by day into this.<p>SNL get your crap together. Get out of this fog you are in before its too late. She would not be better off without you, and your family would not be better off without you. You are copping out! This is so typical "WS" answer. They all say it, "He/She would be better off without me." JUSTIFICATION!<p>Your family needs you to wake up and start working towards a happy family. Your life is not about me, me, me! The world owes you nothing. Your life is about us, us, us!!! Meaning family, your family! Do you honestly think you will be happy living away from your family? You are going to be more sadder and more lonlier than you ever thought possible.<p>Oh sure, the way you are right now she
would be better off without you, but this is because of the choices you continue to make. Quit making bad choices. I can not tell you enough times to get your crap together!!! Your family is only better off without you because you are making it this way for them, so she'll leave you, divorce you and then you can say "Oh my wife gave up on my marriage, she stopped trying."
Also, wouldn't it be just wonderful for you to say, "Oh my wife and my family are better off without me." Just so some woman can make you feel better and tell you what you want to hear, which would be, "No, you are worth it, come on she divorced you, don't put yourself down." GET OFF THIS PITY POT! This is all bull crap, you stopped trying! You are the one who is making her life, your life and your families life miserable. Get out of this midlife crisis you are in. Wake up and smell the coffee before you lose everything. When will you realize happiness and love doesn't come without work??? I just hope it isn't after she loses all respect for you as a man, as a husband and as a father.<p>I had a friend who's husband sounds just like you. She kicked his butt out. She didn't plan A, plan B or anything, they had a good decent life together before he went nuts on her. She fulfilled most of his EN's, sure she wasn't the perfect wife, but then who the heck is. So, he got to be with his soul mate. A couple of months with his soul mate, he finally woke up. He realized that woman wasn't his soul mate, the woman he thought was his soul mate was a nut. His soul mate was his exwife. He's now still paying the price for what he did, once out of the fog, he couldn't believe what he had done. <p>GET OUT OF THE FOG BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!<p>If it's too late when you finally wake up from the fantasy world you are living in then you are going to have the biggest regret you have ever had in your lifetime!<p>ANNA
