Hey all,

I hope everyone had a great weekend.

I think I have now used up all my free time, and need more hours in a day. Until I get used to reading chapters with 35 pages each! (ugh) I won't post as much as I used to. I'm also checking everywhere for scholarships. Less for me to pay!

Petvet

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">As a matter of fact, things are going well, but I know the dark cloud is coming. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If you continue to look for the dark cloud, you will certainly find it if you continue to read the 'horoscopes'!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Mommax8

Listen to Avondale, I agree with her advice totally. There is nothing more that he can say to you. And don't fall for the tears!! That is a last attempt at manipulation.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> As far as the plans for the vacation, I can't change the date because I had already made the arrangements and it is paid for way in advance or I wouldn't go at all. I will however spend my time at the ocean just me and the kids, and he can spend the time with them but leave me alone. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why is he going with you?

Avondale, Wallace and all

Hope all is well.

God Bless
relady

Hi All,

I hope everyone had a good weekend.

mommax8...

You need to get back into Plan B. and quit letting your "H" manipulate you. It's good that he is following through with everything that he is... but he needs to step up to the plate and take care of his financial responsibilties.

Petvet...

Watch out with those horoscopes... they are not good IMHO.

Everything on my end is going O.K. for the time being, but give it time... I'm sure it will change.

avondale, relady, EC, and everyone else...

Hoping your day goes well today.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

<small>[ June 10, 2003, 09:09 AM: Message edited by: Wallace ]</small>

Oh no, we're on page two again! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I hope that is because everything is going OK for everyone.

Nothing new with me except I'm going to the beach for a few days, along with both kids and son-in-law. Will meet my dad and his GF there (Dad & she dated in school, and their families are old friends). Just found out they are living together, as she would lose her fantastic insurance benefits (military widow) if she married. Dad assures me otherwise, they'd be legal in a heartbeat. They're in their 70s so I guess they don't want to waste any more time alone.

So it should be interesting. I see a difference between adultery (what my H did) and what my dad is doing (although sin is sin in God's eyes). Will my kids see a difference between the two? Also, I'm wondering if I'm the only one who sees the irony in this situation??

Have a great weekend, everyone! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

<small>[ June 12, 2003, 07:11 AM: Message edited by: avondale25 ]</small>

Hi Gang!

Well, Well..it made it to page 2...

Nothing new going on with me either...CS Mod date is next week, I can't wait for that.

Yesterday I just got this odd notice posted on my door....My Apt complex management is evicting me in 3 days because they say I owe them a month of rent, in which I don't I gave them cancelled checks to prove it.

The Truth: They are new owners as of 2 months ago and the previous owners ran off with some of the rent payments for april and now they want to steal it from me at there loss and deal gone bad, I've have been an excellent tenant and pay on time with proof of all checks cleared. Therefore once I get the summons for court, I'm filing a $1 million dollar lawsuit against them. They should be going after the previous owners not me.

Take Care

Hi All,

Page 2? Uhmmmm... it must be because everyone is doing pretty good.

avondale...

Going to the beach for a few days sounds like a great time... I could use a little of that. We really don't have any coast line in Colorado. I miss that... I lived most of my life back East... and there was plenty of coast line to go visit... I miss the beach.

Hope you have a great time with your kids and your Dad.

EC...

That is a pretty interesting situation you have going on there. I'm not an attorney, but I do believe that if you have paid your rent and can prove it, and they evict you, you can file suit and recover the costs of the damages that you in actuality incurred. If the new owners act like that though... I would begin to look for a new place immediately.

Hope things go in your favor.

Petvet, relady, mommax8, and everyone else... I hope your day is going well.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

Hey All,

What's up with page 2?

Yesterday was not a good day for me. I realized I wasn't getting one of my bills, called the company and they had changed the address to my H's! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> The said they have a mechanism set up with the post office to receive change of addresses regardless of which family member requests it! How stupid is that? Then I realized he was sending them back with, "Does not live Here". How sad that he couldn't call with that information! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Wallace

You would rather let us go to page two than give us an update on you!! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

How are things? Now that you're not talking about marriage, what's left? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Avondale

You're making me jealous. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> We haven't seen the sun in two weeks. Talk about 'doom and gloom'. I got a condo in the Bahamas next month, so I'll be sure to make you eat your heart out! LOL One way to celebrate a year of 'separation' or a year of 'jubilation' <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Have a great time.

EC

Once they realize you have paid, they won't want to waste their time in court. It's a good thing you keep good records. Should have bought that duplex! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Petvet

Come on, don't keep a low profile, we won't be too hard on you I promise!

God Bless,
relady

I just got back into my office and noticed that I was still logged on.

relady...

Boy do I know what it's like not getting your mail. My exW did the same exact thing. She had all of our mail going to a Post Office box in her name only. Stupid me... it took me 8 months to figure out what was going on. I'm still feeling the ripple effects from that one and that was 2 years ago.

Everything concerning my G/F at this point in time seems to be working well and in the right direction.

She just made an offer on a townhouse yesterday, and she is waiting to see if the owner accepts.

She has come to the conclusion that we are going to wait... before making any long term plans. Maybe in about 3 years if everything is going well we will take a look at making some possible long term plans... but for now, it's steady as she goes and I'm not going to change that.

How are you doing and making out?

Petvet...

I cleared the path for you... so your good to go... LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Stay Strong!

Wallace

<small>[ June 12, 2003, 03:28 PM: Message edited by: Wallace ]</small>

Hello everyone!

I too am headed to the beach (Outerbanks) tomorrow - Avondale, maybe we'll pass on the highway.

Today, WH found out that he will be getting a substantial settlement & said the first thing that he is going to do with the money - WE are going on a cruise, the whole family <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> then he said WE are going to pay off our debts <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> and then invest the rest <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

EVERYONE- Have a great weekend!

D.

<small>[ June 12, 2003, 11:55 PM: Message edited by: WillGetThruThis ]</small>

Hi All,

Well the weekend is just about here and it sounds like everyone is heading to the beach. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

WGTT...

It sounds like your "H" is doing a 180 degree turn. If that's the case what do you think about that, and how are you going to proceed?

You and avondale have fun at the beach.

Hope everyone has a good weekend.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

Hey All,

I'm not going to the beach, at least not yet. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Have a great weekend all.

Happy Father's Day

God Bless,
relady

<small>[ June 13, 2003, 04:49 PM: Message edited by: relady ]</small>

Hi all! A lot seems to be going on here. A couple of folks heading to the beach. I'll be heading to the beach myself in three weeks. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Things seem to be going relatively well for everyone. Hmmmm?

Mommax8: You are heading in the right direction. Vacation sounds real good.

Avondale: I hope you enjoy your time on the beach. I know of a couple of oldsters who are cohabitating for the same reasons as your father. Mostly due to the woman losing benefits from spouse's company or the military. I know how you feel though; you can understand the reasoning, but something is not right about it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Relady: I know you cannot wait to get to the Bahamas. Thirty five pages nightly is pretty bad punishment from the profs.

Wallace: I'm not afraid. I will take my punishment from the Crew. I happy to hear things are going well in your camp. Your apartment complex is going to find themselves paying out alot of money if they are not careful. Has you son found a job?

Me: I don't follow the zodiacs regularly. I was just curious to find out what it had to say about me and the buddy. You guys are right. You have to take it with a grain of salt. Things are going very well between me and my friend.You are right Relady; I need to stop looking for the dark cloud.

Later.

Hi All,

I hope all the fathers out there had a good Father's Day. My kids and I enjoyed the day... and my G/F was there... after plenty of coaxing from me. We all had a great time yesterday.

relady...

No beach for you? It appears that you more than made up for it with a new home in the Bahamas... nice, very nice. Have fun in it... I'm sure your excited to get over there and enjoy it.

Petvet...

Glad to hear that you have smooth sailing and everything is going well for you.

My son and YD still have not been able to find a job yet. We are in pretty sad shape over here... job wise.

I think you might have been referring to EC, concerning the rent issue. I'm still making house payments on my digs... 30 years worth... I just refinanced.

Hope everyones day goes well for them today.

Have a great day.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

Good Morning All,

I hope everyone had a wonderful Father's Day. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> And all went well.

Wallace,

No, unfortunately I didn't buy a condo on the beach of my very own. It's a timeshare and I'm going next month. Well, then again I guess I did buy it even if it was only a week! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">my G/F was there... after plenty of coaxing from me. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why did you have to coax her? Just curious. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Avondale

How was your weekend at the beach? Are you well rested?

Petvet

How was Father's Day for you and did your 'buddy' spend the day with you and your son?

Mommax8

How have you been? Have you gone on vacation yet?

God Bless,
relady

Hi All,

I think I had too much of a whirlwind of a weekend, I'm ready for a vacation... "Father's Day" can and will work you.

relady...

I will still take one week in the Bahamas anytime. It's a great place to be... especially in the months of January and February.

The reason I had to coax my G/F into coming with us on "Father's Day is because she didn't want to intrude on my time with my kids. My kids insisted that she come... so she decided to come.

We all had a great time... too bad the weekends only last so long.

Well I hope everyone has a great day today.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

Well I'm back, tanner, and a LITTLE more rested (family dynamics came into play during the 5 days so I'm not as rested as I had hoped). I really want my dad to marry this lady - it is toooooo weird having them live together <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

EC - how did your CS Mod (is that for modification?) appointment go?? I hope in your favor! Let us hear from you!

Wallace - I think that is great that your kids asked your g/f to attend your Father's Day event. Maybe they're being a little more open-minded about her now....did her kids come too, or just her? I seem to recall the rift was between all the kids, not necessarily between them and your g/f.

WGTT - That is great about your WH ! I hate to look a gift horse in the mouth, but do you have any reason to think (other than eternal hope and faith) that he will follow through with his promises?

Petvet - What's new with you and your buddy?? Did you do anything about your son talking to his mom about her?

Mx8 - Are you still around or at the beach? An update would be great!

Relady - Good for you, going to the Bahamas! Can you change locations for next year, or will you always go to the same place there? I know some timeshares are flexible like that.

Happy belated Father's Day to all you dads.

Hi guys and gals,

Glad to see everyone moving on and living life.

Well another big day on Thursday for the final CS modification and my exw taking me to court for contempt over $30.00 and other less frivilous things.

Then I'll be filing again in Feb 2004 all over again to end it all, what joy and a ride this has been.

Lastweek laid some guitar tracks for a friends CD. This week my job sent me to school to finish up my PC A+ Certification Training..

YD and OD called me on Fathers Day, that was a shock,I was happy, they both said they sent me a gift, haven't seen nothing from them since 2000, so I can't wait until it arrives whatever it is.

I haven't spoken to exw in months and she itching to talk but I won't give in, I can tell when her and OM are having a down time, then she wants to talk and try to have me fill the void. Each time I called to speak to kids if she answers the phone she tries to extend the greeting with something to open the door but I just answer the question quickly and ask to speak to the girls.

Haven't been much help of late to anybody but I'm sure after Thursday things will look better for me..

Take Care

Hi All,

avondale...

It's good to hear that your all tanned and somewhat rested... did you go swimming at the beach?

I'll bet it did feel a little wierd with your father and his G/F there and not being married and all. Do you think he will ask her to marry him?

Glad to hear that all and all it turned out well.

My G/F's kids were not with us on Father's Day... they were out doing other things with their friends. Ironically they didn't spend any time with their father on "Father's Day, so I don't know what to make of that, and neither does my G/F.

EC...

You appear to be moving right along on a positive note... that's good to hear.

You laid down some tracks for your friend's CD... what type of music did you cut tracks for?

Glad to hear that your girls spoke to you on "Father's Day".

I've got my own CS issues still rolling... it is quite amazing. My children and I, haven't spke nor seen my exW in well over a year. At this point in time... I don't think we would have it any other way.

Hope everyone has a nice day.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

Hi All

Hi Wallace, just passing through. The music type is Gospel Music....

Well, I just got done with my CS mod hearing. They pitched my filing stating I should have recgonized the courts error 1 year ago and too bad on my part, now I have to pay a $5,000 extra for the arrearage. Can you believe that?!! My exw was lying every other word and they believed her on everything yet she had no proof of nothing. They treated me like I was some deadbeat man, yet I had proof of every payment. Get this, they wouldn't even give me a $400 credit I paid over a year ago that I found they mis-calculated, once again they said why come you did'nt bring this up 1 year ago, I said I just discovered it, they said too bad. The court played every game and card they could against me, it's just unreal.

They're making me pay child support for the time I was unemployed in 2001 based on my current salary and not the unemployment dollars earned at the time. Also the day exw filed for DV in 2001 would have been they day they should have morally honored, they said 'No' we're going back further that, so this is where the $5,000 comes in at. She has multiple affairs, cause me to lose my job and I get penalized for it.

Anyway alltogether up until YD emancipates May 2004 I will have to pay total $10,000. If I can come up with $3,000 before then I'll be done on that date otherwise It will extend past then in which I want to be cut loose from exw and shut all doors.

I tell you what, DV and CS courts can be some crooked places. I was mad when I got done but one thing I remembered, WS's are deceived and it's all about [Money],cheating, lying and stealing.

In reality, I make more than $5,000 a year. In reality, all money will continue to blow through her hands. In reality she's the real loser. In reality she inherited a loser (OM). In reality I have been blessed far beyond $5,000. In reality her affliction of Adultery and multiple affairs will hurt her all her lifetime because she continues in them.

More than anything this is not forever and will end oneday soon.

Some may say CS is about your kids and not your exw, problem is CS is spent on exw not the kids, 17 and 19.

Take Care.

Hey All,

Hope all is well.

EC

I'm sorry to hear about your problems with you Exw.

My brother is going through the same thing. The courts are awful. He gave his attorney power to sign his name and really got messed up.

It's just amazing to me how women can go out and have affairs and then go to court and demand child support, house equity, etc. and receive it. They are just one huge wrecking ball. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I suggested my brother hire a 'men's rights' attorney. I even agreed to help him pay. There are some, however; He hasn't found one yet.

She will definitely not have good life, that money will be gone in no time. IMHO, if I were you, I would do eveything within my power to give her all the money before next year and get rid of her sooner. And when next year comes, where will she go for money?

God Bless,
relady

Hey y'all, more rain here in the Tarheel state...

EC - I am sooo sorry to hear about your court outcome. You're right, it certainly isn't "fair" but it's great that you can see REALITY for what it really is! You are much richer than your exw these days, so don't ever forget it!