I sent my< ex new years greeting: Wish you wonderful wedding, two boys, 19 yrs of marriage and at least 1 female lover"<p>The same m,essage I sent to her (OW).<p>Yesterday I sent them both the same SMS: You succeded to kick me out of the house, then OD (who originlly chose to live with them), now you are trying to prevent YD to come to you: How long it will past till you (OW) kick him. You think you'll keep him forever with this child , but him need real uncondicional truthful love what you do not know what it is.<p>
That was not enough so I pushed the girls to get lived to him , ebvenD to return to her old shool after holidays, what means she has to live with them.<p>So that's finally the end .<p>I obviously didn't understand MB principles and I spoiled every hope to be with him ever again to collect pieces of our family together , My destiny is to live and die alone.<p>Other people wish everything best in the next yr , I only want to die, this time from natural causes,cause I lost curriage foer suicide.<p>Thanks for support till today.
I needed only to vent and say hallo and thanks to everybody who helped me ever.<p>Love to you all .
Wish you all the luck.

"A life unexamined is a life not worth living"<p>Your life is very worth living... so you sent a message...what is done is done and cannot be changed... Celebrate your right to be angry!<p>NOW GIVE THEM NO MORE POWER OVER YOU!! <p>Release them to share a destiny that is sure to allow them to reap the pain they have sown into your life.<p>They have obviously moved on and NOW it is your time to begin to heal. <p>I know you have alot to live for. Especially
your precious girls. Take a time for yourself. Try a good warm bubble bath with candles and a nice glass of wine( if you drink)" and Just for today...Pray for the strength to make it through this day. <p>Much love and warm thoughts are coming your way.
Please post again. I want to know you read this.<p>Cover Girl.
[/B][B]"A life unexamined is a life not worth living"

<p>[ January 20, 2002: Message edited by: MMMMM ]</p>

b&d,<p>I am sorry I could not respond to you sooner, as I have had computer problems, and could not get on to the site. Well, I am back now..........but I feel bad, because on your other thread you talk of doing the sms messages, and of course, I would have talked you out of that.<p>However, it is done, and there is no taking it back. You have a RIGHT to your anger, and sometimes I feel that the WS needs to know the damage they do. They need to see the hurt they have inflicted on another human being, a glimpse of the pain you are feeling will not do any harm at this point in time. Look, I really let rip at my H not too long ago......did it make any difference? Not a jot. Put it out of your mind.....it happened.<p>You left MB principles for a bit, you did what you felt you HAD to do. Okay. Now is the time to re-commit yourself to the plan. Why? Because no matter how this turns out, it makes for a better YOU.<p>As the other poster here said, now is the time to stop giving power to them. Leave it, let them internalise your messages, and you try to get on with your own life. The thing that has kept me from writing to H's OW all this time is knowing the satisfaction she would reap from my pain, and I refuse to give her that. She will find out in time what kind of man my H is, and he will find out about her. And I get some satisfaction from that. <p>This will happen in your case, too. You just need time, and patience on your side.<p>Be strong b&d, be kind to yourself...you made those messages because you are human. <p>Love and light,<p>Jacky