Actually I just found this site today. I'm looking for anything that can help me to put my marriage back together. There isn't anyone else in either of our lives...as far as I know. But, I've always been one to listen to others because I wanted to please everyone else. I just haven't done very good at pleasing my husband when it comes to being honest about my feelings for him. I love him with all my heart and I really see no reason to continue without him. I admit to you and I have admitted to him that I'm stupid for not listening to my heart but, doing what I thought other people wanted me to do...#1 being my son. But, I've thought alot the last few weeks and I know that my son will grow up and move away and have a life of his own soon. And my allowing him to influence me to divorce my husband and his father is totally wrong. I love my husband and I need him. Just as my son actually needs him...he just sees him as someone that says no to him sometimes. Which I seem to not be able to do. But, I'm seeing the light now and I want to move toward that light with my husband. The one man that I've loved all my life. I just don't know what to do to get him back and regain his love and trust. Please give me any advice you can.

I would think the first step is to admit that you have a problem expressing your feelings.(correct me if i am wrong) Then shower him with love. If it is he you truly want to spend "the rest of your life with" show him, don't tell him. Prove to him that you will win his heart and his love back. He is probably hurt and angry now, but once you open up the lines of communication, and express to him what you would like to give him out of the relationship, he might just open his eyes and "come home". As for you, you have to stop pleasing everyone. You can't. I have also been that way all my life. The only people you "owe" anything to in this life is your husband, your son, and most of all, YOU!!!<p>Monique