Just finished the first chapter in SAA. I know more answers are to come in the book, but One that keeps plagueing me is...Will WS ever see or believe what Dr. Harvey is saying is true? His example of Sue, Jon and Greg have described what has happened in my M. The only difference is that WS did not realize the EA was going on until after she told me she wanted D. Then she moved out and in with OM. OM was also M'd and seems to me that he was in the same position as my WS. He was my neighbor and BF. I'm plan Aing and it seems to be working somewhat. But, How is she ever going to realize this stuff if she isn't willing to read SAA or isn't willing to even talk about reconciliation? Just doesn't make sense. Someone please give me some insight on this. I will keep reading tonight until I fall asleep, but these questions are REALLY getting to me, as of right now, I don't see WS seeing any hope whatsoever for our M. Patience is killing me...Hopefully SAA will help me understand. I bought both HN/HN and SAA, hopefully I will find my answers there, but If anyone has any to give now, it would be greatly appreciated. I have little time to read and it's going to take a while.

WS doesn't need to realize anything right now. She can't think in her right mind with all the WS-fog confusion and indecision and second-guessing and justifying...<p>SAA is designed to help YOU understand. Focus on you. Her enlightenment will come down the road when OM has his chances to love bust and shatter her 'soulmate' facade... For now, focus on you and changing and growing and learning how to be your best. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]