I posted a few days ago. I am still trying to understand all of the "abbreviations". It's not easy. My H hasn't really said much to me since Sat. the 2nd. We talk only about basic everyday stuff, nothing about us. I copied a lot of info from the MB site. I asked him to read it. He had nothing to say. I asked agian if he read it, answer was yes. That's it. I really wanted this to work out between us but i just don't see it happening without help from an outside source. He won't try counseling again, says I bash him verbally. I don't really see it that way, but I guess it doesn't matter. I am so tired of trying to make things work. I have my own issues that I am seeing a counselor for on my own. I am trying but he would rather not. He doesn't feel that there was ever any work involved in the beginning of our relationship. It all just kinda happened naturally. I don't see it that way. But, I did notice that once I got pregnant, things changed. We stopped being us. and trying to work on us. The marriage was there in both of our opinions, it always would be. Well, 1 1/2 yrs later, the marriage is not there and I don't think it reaaly was to start with. I love him, I am not in love with him. I want to work on this so much. I don't want to force him to try though because then I am trying to hard and it makes him even worse than before. I really don't know what to do anymore. I know this sounds silly, but does anyone have suggestions or advice? I am ready to blow, because I can't take the silence anymore!!

I would try some links, but I would probably send you to Disneyland....
Try reading about Plan A, even though it mentions infidelity it is still a good tool for any suffering marriage.
Also hit the emotional needs questionare. He might do that because it is on paper and really non threatening.
There is an introductions page, been so long though... it gives all the abbreviations.
OP other person
OW othe woman
H husband
D daughter
YD young daughter
A affair
D-day when you found out about A
it really is pretty straightforward,
Let us know if you have ?'s