Dated 5 years
Married 9 years
One child, boy 5 1/2
Divorced Sept 2001<p>My divorce was finalized in September 2001. W wanted to end marrigae. I was fighting to save it. I was seeing a marriage counselor for 2 1/2 years. Still, I was not able to set things right. The situation worsened until she filed for divorce. By Then I was emotionally numbed. There was nothing I could do except follow my
attorny's advice. <p>I quess I have strong family ties, loyalty, unconditional love etc. Stating this, it is my desire for us to get back together. learn to love again and raise our son. After reading the an apology letter posted on this web site, I realized how wrong I was in the way I treated her. There was no cheating or physical abuse, just ignorance in meeting her needs. Saying I failed miserably is an understatment. I want to return before it is too-late. I realize the Odds are against that happening and I feel in my heart, that is what i must do. If anyone would be kind enough provide their input. I would really appreciate it.

As mentioned in the eternal truths,
14) You can't make anyone love you.<p>But you can say you're sorry, and say it again, and do what you can to try and make things right. <p>My advice is go for it. Tell her how you feel, and what you are willing to do to make things right. This will be a one sided battle for a while, possibly never to be won, but you can give it a try with my best wishes.<p>Just a pointer or two from my experience, your love must be unconditional - especially when it is the hardest thing to do. Probably the worst thing you could do is give any inkling of attempting to move on. Don't demand anything in return. Don't expect anything in return. If something happens to be given in return be happy about it and treat it as a gift. <p>Elizabeth

Finally, after a year of making sure my wife recieved a present or at least a card on holidays or hallmark days from my 5 year old, she has recently stated that she is going to send me something from him this easter. Hopefully this si only the beginning. <p>St. Jude pray for us all!